MONKEY MUSINGS DAILY OPEN DISCUSSION #42 6/12/09 - 6/30/09

[Lovinlife]

Trimm, please send the heat up north!  I just about froze last night!  Hope all is well other than the heat.  Take it easy, especially with the yard work!

Lovinlife

[Lovinlife]

Numbers~Nanners

(I feel like Uma-Oprah, Oprah-Uma...what movie was that from?)

[MuffyBee]

Lovinlife!  You're back    I missed seeing you.  Hope all is well

[Lovinlife]

Lovinlife!  You're back    I missed seeing you.  Hope all is well

Went on a much needed vacation!  All is well with me.  I missed you all as well!  I see I have a lot to catch up on!  Missed my monkey friends!!!!

[crazybabyborg]

Helloooooo?????

[Lovinlife]

Did I miss news on Dolce? TIA, Lovinlife

[Lovinlife]

Helloooooo?????

Hey CBB!!!!!!!!!!

[Fanny Mae]

Did I miss news on Dolce? TIA, Lovinlife

Did you know Dolce had her babies?

[wreck]

Numbers~Nanners

(I feel like Uma-Oprah, Oprah-Uma...what movie was that from?)

That was David Letterman when he hosted the Academy Awards.

[Lovinlife]

Did I miss news on Dolce? TIA, Lovinlife

Did you know Dolce had her babies?

OMG!!! Please tell me everyone is doing fine & the babies are healthy!

[mytime]

Hi Monkeys!!   

[KCJackie]

  Hello!!

[KCJackie]

Did I miss news on Dolce? TIA, Lovinlife

Did you know Dolce had her babies?

OMG!!! Please tell me everyone is doing fine & the babies are healthy!

I believe the babies will be 2 weeks old this Sunday.  Both weighing around 5 lbs and 12 & 13" long.  They got to go home the next day!!   You can read more (and see their precious pictures) over at the Nursery Section. 

[mytime]

   Where did everyone go? 

[Lovinlife]

  Where did everyone go? 

I got lost in the nursery section, then posted a zebra butt in the babies & grandbabies thread.  How's Mytime today? 

[mytime]

  Where did everyone go? 

I got lost in the nursery section, then posted a zebra butt in the babies & grandbabies thread.  How's Mytime today? 

I am getting tired and how about you? 

[Lovinlife]

  Where did everyone go? 

I got lost in the nursery section, then posted a zebra butt in the babies & grandbabies thread.  How's Mytime today? 

I am getting tired and how about you? 

Me too, and hungry.  I better get to bed before I break out the Dorito's.  Dorito's at 2:15am is not a good thing.

[trimmonthelake]

Trimm, please send the heat up north!  I just about froze last night!  Hope all is well other than the heat.  Take it easy, especially with the yard work!

Lovinlife

Hey Lovinlife. 
I'll send you some.  The humidity is the worst.You have to work a little and rest.I'm hanging in there like a rusty fish hook.   

[always 1]

Happy Fathers Day Weekend Mr Dolce!!!

[BooMonkey]

As many of you know, my Dad passed away on Thursday. I posted this in the prayer thread, but I'm feeling now I have stayed too long there. The thread is for all prayers and needs, not just my need to talk. So I came here, I hope you monkeys don't mind. I wanted to share this with you.

I sent out an email to some of my friends of the news of my Father. I get a reply from a good friend of mine from out of state. She states she is watching me. She said her parents are alive, so she has been untouched by the death of a loved one. She sees the pain her friends are in when they have to deal with this issue. So I wrote her the following email. I hope it will help one of you.

If I had to tell you one thing, it would be to spend as much time with them as possible. Call them, email them, send them cards and notes through the mail. They really treasure communication the most in their twilight years. I have found unopened gifts and such through out the house. We thought we were bringing him into the Millennium with technology. He cared nothing for that, but he had every letter and card we sent him.

Ask questions about their life, I am shocked at the things we are finding out about my Dad. He was involved in so many projects from Kiwanis club to the Lakeshore School Educational fund. I want to hear his voice, he wasn't much for the camera but I'm going to have to ask my sisters for video. Take video and have them answer questions and recall their youth. It may be years after their passing for you to view it, but you will have it and you will be able to visit with them once again.

Call them constantly, check up on them. If only under the guise of you seeing what book they are reading or a simple question. At least you can go to sleep knowing they are OK at the moment. I wish I had gotten my father that Life Alert thing I saw on TV. He died alone, I have no idea if he suffered or if it was quick, the phone was in his kitchen and he hated his cell phone.

Have them get all their paperwork together in one file, my Dad did this and it was a blessing. If possible discuss what they want for their funeral. We all think about it, I have even mentioned to my daughter things I would like. Most children don't want to discuss it, it's too painful, but you have to know what they want, it will make things easier when the time comes. They don't want to leave you with difficult decisions, they want their affairs in order. No one wants their children to struggle with their issues and finances. Have them put your name on their accounts and a quick deed for the house. Life will be so much easier. Funerals are fricking expensive, so far it's close to $9,0000. Those pre-paid funerals aren't a bad idea. Dad kicked this around a few years ago, but decided to leave the money in the bank so it would gain additional interest. It's so hard to think straight making these decisions. Writing obits, writing a eulogy, trying to remember what year he was in the service or when he was Superintendent of Lakeshore Schools. So much to do in the space of a few days. Funerals are only 2 days now, things have changed.

Help them clean their home. It's difficult in the later years to bend over, catch that dust bunny, get rid of that stack of newspapers in the corner. As a present hire a crew to clean from top to bottom. Yeah they may bitch and complain, but man, nothing makes you feel better than a clean home, it gives you a sense of control again. Pay a lawn service to do all the outside stuff from lawn to bushes. It helps so much.

Sit with them and watch a movie or TV. My Dad had a list written of all these old movies he wanted to see. I love old movies and have seen quite a few on his list, I would have loved to watch them with him, but he never said a word. I always thought he was watching the news or golfing. Just bring over a munchie or dessert, kick back and hang with them. These are moments you will treasure forever.