Lively Case Discussion #565 12/25 - 12/27/2006

[LilPuma]

You all are kinda making me think I'm better off staying single.

You've probably heard Rod Stewart's famous quote about marriage?  

"Next time I feel like getting married, I'm just going to find a woman I don't like and buy her a house."  

[crazybabyborg]

Which do you want, tcumom? I'll try to get it from the tree, or we can start fresh? Want me to see what I can find? Is there something you'd like?

This is exciting, and I'm not kidding, either!  Here's a few things to think about:  art teacher, genealogy buff, Scottish terriers.....maybe something along any of those lines?

I could make him holding a Natalee poster, let me see what else I can find......then you can choose!

[LilPuma]

Nite nite, CBB.  I think I am going to call it a day along with you and Elaine.  Big day today and hopefully I can go shopping tomorrow and pick up a bargain or two, nothing like shopping for a case of female depression.      

The official term is "Retail Therapy".

[crazybabyborg]

You all are kinda making me think I'm better off staying single.

You've probably heard Rod Stewart's famous quote about marriage?  

"Next time I feel like getting married, I'm just going to find a woman I don't like and buy her a house."  

Don't leave me hanging!  

[tcumom]

CBB ~ that sounds good, and I'm already in love with the little guy holding the poster, especially if we can make it a poster of Natalee.

Boy, am I glad it's quiet in here tonight.....

[klaasend]

Been lurking this evening and now it's time for me to call it a night.  Here you go tcumom (if you want it )



http://i37.photobucket.com/albums/e82/klaasend2/tcumom.jpg

GOODNIGHT ALL - MERRY CHRISTMAS!

[crazybabyborg]

How about a monkey artist?



Your timing sucks, Klaas!  

If I can't mange it, I'll leave you a note. It will say: HELP!!!  

Night Klaas! Sleep well!

[tcumom]

Klaas ~ thank you ~ should have known you'd have a glass to the wall
CBB's going to see what she can find for me ~ maybe I'll have a whole new image for 2007!

[crazybabyborg]

OK, tcu...............let me see what I can do with the scoti. I'm not fast, so if I don't get back before you go to bed, look for my last post tonight, or a note to Klaas for help!  

We'll get you one, I promise!  

[LilPuma]

All I can really say is... it is far easier to deal with other people's physical problems, than it is to deal with (and put up with) their emotional problems.

My family has deep, difficult, complicated emotional problems that are just compounded by their physical fallout from the recent accident. I really strive to rise above all that, but it's almost impossible to escape. I would almost rather be alone, EVEN AT CHRISTMAS, than have to deal with emotional cripples who baby one another and take out their frustrations on everyone else. And who manipulate and seek to control others for their own selfish, self-centered reasons.

sb, and Tyler,

God, no wonder you have brought us here together! Amen!

I'm going to sell the house this year................the house that was paid for in full and given to me in a divorce that my ex said was to protect our assets. He gave me everything. And I trusted...............

THEN I began to discover. Discover his porn addiction, his escort in Florida, his SECOND mortgage on the house he had given me, my $350,000 indebtness on joint accounts. I fell into a dark hole and emerged unwilling to let it stand, as he fell closer and closer to bankruptcy. He moved back in in exchange for paying the bills and I started my own company with the money my Mom left me. It's a scary feeling of risking stewardship of all that she intended for me.  We had worked together in his company and I tried to sustain both and have worked 16-18 hours a day, struggling to make it all work, while vacilating from hurt to homicidal tendancies toward him..................and came home to have his presence there too! I got off all the accounts I could, and tried to take comfort in the fact that at least the mortgage was being paid down,......
2 weeks ago, I pulled up my credit report. He had topped the credit line on the house AGAIN! The bank refuses to acknowledge my request made at the time to CLOSE the line, and no, I didn't follow up the conversation in writing.
He's going down, and I'm terrified of what the future holds. I do know who holds the future, and I'm hanging on!

My brother was an alcoholic, sb. I honestly believe my only living relative has a personality disorder. I know dysfunctional and it's an incredible emotional drain on those of us who don't particip[ate in the emotional dysfunction. We just hurt and try to clean up the wreckage.
I learned to seperate my interaction with them, and started interacting with what God would have me do in their presence. Honest. I've prayed so many times to take control of my heart, my mouth, my eyes, my hands and help me fulfill His purpose in relation to them. It removed them from the equation and allowed some of the emotional damage I risked, to be removed.

God love you both, {{{HUGS}}}

Maybe that's why I ended up here.  I won't go into lifelong stories, but dysfunctional family stuff is all too familiar.  Dr. Phil tells parents that they are their kids "soft place to fall".  I've never had that.  When I fell (got pushed real real hard) I found out why I never even leaned before.    Anyhow, I can relate to family problems and not having that support system, or having a "support system" that makes things worse.  In spite of some great fun and friends I had on another board, I've met some very loving and caring people on two boards talkng about Natalee Holloway.   God bless her and her family.  They turned their tragedy into something that has made a difference in many lives and more good things will come of this.  In America, Aruba and hopefully many other places.

[tcumom]

OK, tcu...............let me see what I can do with the scoti. I'm not fast, so if I don't get back before you go to bed, look for my last post tonight, or a note to Klaas for help!  

We'll get you one, I promise!  

I just love you!  This is a wonderful last Christmas present of 2006!      

[LilPuma]

Tyler, if the bank takes the house, could you buy it back?  They often sell foreclosures for less than market, don't they?  I don't know much about it, but if he loses the place, you might be able to get it back without having to pay his debts.  Do you have a lawyer and/or real estate friend that you can talk to and ask?

[IBE]

Carnut get a pre-nup! But that's one of the reason I cocoon. I can hurt my self with dumb things I have done or do now, without any help! But it is lonely too.


Tylergal I was crying when reading about your mom's home. I went through something similar and in hindsight some was my fault and some was not.

I didn''t bail out when I should have and it affected my health and morale in a big way; added loosing another home here... just now starting to recover.

Someone will love the home as your mom and your family did.
CBB
tcumom
Elaine
Carnut Isn't it interesting we were all online at the same time and all, in different varieties has happened to us?

LilPuma the dog and cat say thank you, too.

Sorry, I couldn't post when the discussion was going on; was watching the movie about the pink sub. Need to find another comedy so won't fall into a funk.

Tylergal You are so kind. Think about your future, your health, and your finances first for now is the time to stockpile for retirement. When they say "limited income" they just don't know how "limited!!!! What Soc. Security gives, Medicare deductions take away.

Chins up!

I like to come here. It makes me feel better.

[crazybabyborg]

[IBE]

One of the reasons why the series "Knots Landing" was so popular and ran so long was that the story lines were so close to everyday people vs. say "Dallas".

Each one of us could write our own soap opera, but I am not sure they'd believe us

Again, Chins Up!

[IBE]

CBB

Very nice!

[crazybabyborg]

This work, tcu?

[crazybabyborg]

Now, I'm playing,  

[crazybabyborg]

OK, Klaas...............you're on for any improvements!  

I'd like to make the "FIND NATALEE" a little more readable...........

I'm going to bed, so I'll check tomorrow and hopefully, see the avatar with any Klaas improvements!  

Night!

[justinsmama]

My dear monkey friends~ I am so glad that we have this forum. Natalee's spirit is alive here.

SB, Tyler, CBB and everyone who is troubled~ We are friends, and the support we receive from one another is invaluable. It has certainly been a blessing for me over the past week. I think that I may have lost my mind if I had not had you all.