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C'mon in! Hang and chat with Easywriter!

Can we put our feets on the furniture, Easy?

Dang. Mower is mowing the lawn. Nap boogered up.

Hi Easy,
 I like to put my feet up too.

Also am a smoker so please can I still smoke. LOL

I think it was awfully nice of Justinsmama to make this place especially for you and your friends Easy. JMHO

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Easy

Hello Easy,

How are you feeling? And how is your little mom doing? What's going on with your son?

Isn't Justin's nice - she set up this whole thread so that we can converse with you, "talk amongst ourselves" and/or chit chat. She's a good friend. I should have to email her.

The price of gas in SoCal is pretty high. Close to $3.50 a gallon. How much is it in your area?  Here, it would not matter much (altho people would be screaming) what a gallon cost because Los Angeles is so spread out. This is Carnut city. And ya gotta feed that car or it won't function.

Speaking of cars, Easy, I went to a huge Target complex on Santa Monica and LaBrea today. I specifically remember I got a good parking place. When I finished shopping, I thought I parked on P2 but I couldn't find my car. I walked up and down the rows with no luck. It was a hot day so it was about 300 degrees down there. I got the attention of a security guard who took me to the parking office. A young man quizzed me about where I entered, did I turn left and then right, etc. So we began to walk. Amazing - we found my car within 5 minutes. I knew no one stole it, but I was frustrated with myself. Next time I'm going to write it down.

Anyway, enough of my silly chatter. I think I'm the only Monkey up this late. Time to sleep.

I wish you a good day tomorrow.

Love, Mama Louise

PS: Tomorrow I'll put my feet up.

Hey, Louise! I've done the same in regards to parking and "losing" my car.

Gas prices are dropping here! Whoohoo!

I dunno why, but I've been irritable lately. I don't like feeling this way.

Right now, I have no diet coke in the house (which does not help), so I'm off to get some!

Easy, if ya don't git in here soon, the place is gonna smell of ciggies and stinky feet!

Why do I have a place?   8)

So we can chat wit ya without gettin' into trouble.  :shock:

Hey Easy,

We need pictures to make this place more homey. Why don't you plaster us with that handsome face of yours.

lol  Kind of funny how my face can upset some people.  They shouldn't have let me know that one.  :twisted:

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What a nice picture. You really are a hunk. OOPS! is that a sexist remark. LOL

Now if my memory serves me right you would have been ? 54 then , Correct?

No, I doubt if you would be to old for BTgirls 35 year old friend.JMHO

Keep those pictures coming. Lets liven this place up.

Sam

Easy~!
 I love seeing your pictures!  You are very handsome!!  :)
I wish I was that lion.. ha ha ha!!!  :)

Easy, It's about time you got your own place so we can chat & see lots of pics!!!

Easy,

As you know, I'm an Easywriter groupie, so I'm very glad you have your own thread now.

I love to love at your pics and hear your stories. You have so much talent, and I'm glad you share it with us.

Keep those pictures and stories coming! :D

I tamed that lion!  8)

Let me tell a story.

A half moon seems to hang low in the sky.  The smell of yesterday lingers in the dirt.  The music drifted across the sand and got lost in the horizon.

I'm hurting.  Help take me there.

I'll be 55 in September.  I'm getting old.

Old, my arse! Get yourself fixed up with that 35 year old! I have a friend who is older than you and his wife is 36 years old.

I’VE BEEN CRYING OVER YOU…….

Well, Easy you have a nice place here.  Did you hire a decorator?

Why can I not get my avatar to show?

What can I do?  My kid took a swing at me.  He took several more and I was lost.  My jaw dropped and I hit him hard.  Is that a bad thing?  I knocked him across the room.  He shouldn’t have tried to hit me.  I don't feel good about it!  I really don't.

Easy~ What was the alternative? For him to beat the hell out of you? If so, then you did what you had to do to protect yourself. He is no longer a child. He is an adult, and his behavior had consequences.

Adding to the above:

He's damn lucky that it was you that he assaulted and not someone with a gun or knife. Those of us who actively use substances are at great risk of provoking others into harming us.

Hey Easy! Nice place! Please don't beat yourself up over it Easy, as Justins said, what was the alternative? Your son needs to realize that there are consequences for his actions. Your son knows deep down that you love him and he loves you as well I am sure.It happened,it is over and now the two of you need to try to move on.

Dearest Easy,

If this is what you meant by the below (I dunno how to do quotes - maybe you can teach me?) I publicly apologize from the bottom of my heart for posting on the LCD that you were posting pics to get attention. I'm very, very sorry for saying that. I've been kicking myself every day over that and I've stayed away from the LCD. I had a very insensitive moment. You know I care about you and have sent you emails asking how you are and how is little mom.

With love,
Mama Louise

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Easy wrote: lol Kind of funny how my face can upset some people. They shouldn't have let me know that one.
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Dear Easy,

Two things.

You are an extraordinarily handsome man. I want more pics. 55 is not old. They say 50 is the old 30. People are getting younger for their ages. So consider yourself 35.

Regarding your son, he is an adult. It's not like he was ten years old and hit you and you knew not to hit a child back. You had to protect yourself. An old Jewish saying, "If I am not for myself, who will be for me?" You had no alternative. The survival instinct took over, which is how it should be.  

I'm sorry that sad event popped up in your life.

With love,
Mama Louise

Easy,

If I could, I WOULD love to take you there. I'm sorry about your pain. You know you can email me if ever want you want to talk further.

With love.

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Easy writes: Let me tell a story. A half moon seems to hang low in the sky. The smell of yesterday lingers in the dirt. The music drifted across the sand and got lost in the horizon. I'm hurting. Help take me there.
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Easy,

Take it easy on yourself. Wish I knew who you were crying over.

Wish it were me "wink."   :D   :lol:    :D    :lol:

With love.  

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Easy wrote: I’VE BEEN CRYING OVER YOU…….
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Louise! Are you as my mother has always said of me~ "I know how you are when it comes to very handsome men!"? LOL!

Well, it does bother me that it came to that, but I didn’t know what else to do.  I couldn’t just stand there and be a punching bag then let him continue to trash my house.  It all makes me very sad and I really have no answers.  Maybe he will wise up, if he survives these years.

I miss having him around.

OOPs I thought you were already 55. Sorry.
Most of the time I think all that is just numbers. There are days I do feel old but not most of the time. Right now I have a bad sinus cold thingy and feel old. I also felt old while going through radiation and chemo. I have no idea which one it was but one of them zapped my energy.

Easy, I saw something on the news at noon. It was about a guy who had this new artificial heart put in. Very tiny. He was the first one to get it. they needed to do a stent but his heart was in such bad shape they could not do it. So they put in this artifical one to work as well . He says he has not felt this good in years. He looked like he was quite a bit older than you.

Also being nosy here but do you know what drugs your son is using?

Also how do your other sons feel about all this?

If those are to personal to answer then do not. I am just hoping it is not Meth.

Also your son sounds like he needed some tough love anyway. Sometimes we have to do things we do not want to do. Just a fact of life.

Sam

Hi Easy,

San brought up some things I had not thought about - an artificial heart. What does your physician say about this? Are you on any type of list waiting for a heart?

Also, San took the words right out of my mouth - I have questions about your son. I know it's him you are crying over.

In order to clarify how this thing started, I'd like to know how old your son is. What drug(s) is he on? And most important, what happened directly before the confrontation? Were you having a conversation? What was said? How did the big blow up begin?  All we know is that he was on drugs and hit you and you hit him back.

Could you share more please? It didn't happen all of a sudden out of the blue. There must have been a whole history leading up to this event.

With love,
Mama Louise

Hey Louise, I am Sam not San. Common mistake.

Easy I looked to see if I could find that article online about the artificial heart and could not find the right one. I did see where the FDA has approved this new one to be implanted. It is only approved for patients who will die within a month without it.

The one I seen on Tv yesterday fit that category except the person receiving it was going to get a stent and they had decided he would not survive the surgery because his heart was so damaged. They inplanted the artificial as well as did the stent for his damaged heart. I do not know exactly how the artificial works in this case. If maybe it just takes over when the other gets tired or something like a pacemaker does.

I will keep looking.

Sam

I'm sorry, Sam.

My son is 20 and he has had problems with prescription drugs (Xanax and Loritab) along with alcohol in the past.  He has been through treatment programs more than once.  His mother and her husband could not deal with him any longer so he came to live with me a few months ago.  Things were going very well and he was gaining my trust.  I promised to get him a decent car, if he continued to keep his nose clean.  I told him that even if he should give into temptations that driving under the influence was out of the question.

Well, one Friday I came home from work and he wanted to borrow my truck to go to the mall.  He had gotten paid for a weeks worth of construction work and he wanted to go get some clothes.  I said sure.  

Much later he came home and said some girls followed him and he was going with them to a teen bar.  He could hardly stand straight and he was slurring his words.  I told him that he would end up in jail if he did go, because the new police chief has been on a mission about underage drinking.  I also told him driving my truck in that condition was a deal breaker.  That set him off and he stormed out of the house.  I then called his mother and told her what to expect.  He has done this same thing in the past when he had a little money in his pocket and then the telephone starts ringing from the jail with him begging to be bailed out.  I told her I would not be bailing him out if that happened.  She agreed.  Then she called him and talked him into coming back to my house.

He did come back but he was in a rage at that point and he said a few choice things to me.  I told him to go sleep it off and we would talk the next day.  He went screaming down the hall calling me every name in the book.  I could hear things crashing down the hall, so I walked down to his room to see what was going on.  He had thrown a TV on the floor and was generally trashing his room.  I warned him to stop before I called 911.  He then snatched the telephone out of the wall.  I told him he was crossing a line.  That’s when he took a swing at my face, which I dodged.  He tried to sucker punch me two more times, but I avoided his fist.  I told him he had lost his mine and that is when he hit me in the chest as hard as he could.  While I was standing there amazed, he hit me in the chest again.  That’s when I decided I had to subdue him before it got any worse.  I caught him with a left to the gut that knocked him off balance and I then caught him with a hard right to the side of his head.  That stunned him and he dropped his arms.  I grabbed him around his arms and took him to the floor.  He couldn’t move, but his mouth was still running off.  I told him he had to go.  

I called his mom with my cell and told her she needed to get him out of here before things got really bad, or I called the cops.  She did come get him and he cussed me all the way out the door.  He paused at the door just long enough to throw something at me.

That is pretty much the story of that night.  A 20-year-old as tall as me and in much better physical shape was trying to kick my butt in my own house.  He was out of control and I couldn’t bend him over my knee and give him a spanking.  So, I gained control of the situation the only way I could at the time.

He has been doing some better since that event.  He has enrolled at a local university, living in the dorm, making good grades so far and working part time at a steak house.  He came by last night to pick up a laptop I bought him for school and he looked good.  His eyes were clear, he had a bounce in his step and he seemed to be excited about the university lifestyle.  If he can just control this urge he has concerning drugs and booze, he will do fine.  All a parent can do is hope at this point.

Easy, does he attend AA meetings or meet with a counsler on a consistent basis?

Easy, thanks so much for sharing that. Like I have said before You did what you had to do

Addictions are so hard to break. As a smoker I can tell you I have quit at least a million times. Never successful. I think maybe the younger you are the easier.

I had an alcoholic father. He also had 3 brothers. Two of them were alcoholics as well. He was a really good guy. Honest. His addiction caused him to lose my Mother. He would quit drinking, Sometimes for 2 or 3 years. During that time he would pay off his bills, save his money as well as stock up on booze. White lightning for when he hit the bottom of the barrel. He always knew it was only a matter of time before his next binge hit.

When he was on his non drinking spells he had so much will power. He would still go to bars because that is where his friends were. He would just drink soda. Then one day he would have that first drink. For awhile he would manage to go to work but not long. He drank from the time he woke until he went to bed. He would spend all the money he had saved, borrow from friends until they would no longer loan him money. Then he would drink his closet full of white lightning until it was gone. Then he would sober up and start over again. Go back to work, pay off his friends and his other bills and start saving again for his next binge. A vicious cycle that eventually killed him. One thing I will say he was never a mean drunk. His brothers were.

My oldest sis died at 38 years old from eating so many over the counter drugs that eventually the old heart could not take any more. She took them for years, starting as a young teen. So addictions run in the family.

I hope that going back to school will be the thing that helps your son through this. I also hope he does not get in with the party croud , which is so prevalent at colleges now.

I will continue to keep you both in my prayers.

Sam

Easy, you did what you had to do.   Don't feel bad.

We love you.

Easy, Please, for your own sake, try AlAnon.

Yes, Easy, AlAnon is a good organization.  You will be surprised that you are not alone in all this.  There are many families who are going through similar things right now.  You are not alone.

I had to share this with you, Sam.  This is a picture on the ceiling of a smoker's lounge.

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That is very cool........Powerful.

When he first moved in with me he did go to some AA meetings and even had a girl that liked to go with him just to give support.  He was also on probation and watching his step pretty closely.  As soon as his probation officer managed to end the probation early he started slipping back into his old habits and running with his old crowd.

Sam - Thanks for the supportive words.  Addiction is a terrible thing and there is a history in my family too.  It can rip families apart.  Doesn't matter if it is a parent or a child it puts everyone around the person in turmoil.

Thanks Peaches!  We all have our trials and tribulations.  Some more than others.

I will look into it.

I would not be surprised.  I've sat in a court room with him before and 90% of those seeing the judge were near his age and in trouble due to drugs and or alcohol.  It is a serious problem these days.  We ran a little wild when I was a teen, but there were certain things we just didn't do.  Anything goes with these kids today.

OK, please do not flame me. I am not a real Hillary Clinton suppoerter but I do think it takes a village to raise a child. When we were young if an adult saw us doing something wrong they spoke to us about it and then told our parents. Our parents tried to punish us appropriatley.

Today if an adult speaks to the child and tells the parent, the parent says not my child or stay out of our business. So adults are afraid to speak up.
I still do tend to speak up. I also love kids of all ages.

When I was a counselor at a drug abuse center I wound up being involved in an alternative center. We were primarily a place for the kids to hang out. These were kids as young as 11. They were not on drugs. They usually just needed a babysitter.  Broken homes. Mothers to young to be parents. So they were out running around and leaving the kids to raise themselves.

Do I think it was wrong for the Moms to want to go out. NO! I really do not know what the solution is. Birth control for one. Centers for kids to hang out can also help. JMHO

Easy yes try alanon.


Bearlyhere, Yes I have seen that photo before. I think it is a neat photo.

I know there are a lot of problems with smoking and lung function and yes my doctor would like for me to quit. He also told me everything we do from the time we are born affects our lungs. All the chemicals we are exposed to. For women they seem to be exposed to so much. All the cleaning products, perfumes. In our village we were allowed to burn garbage until the past 5 years. It was the first thing you smelled when you drove into town. It smelled worse than the smoking areas you encounter sometimes and must admit those sometimes are really bad. JMHO

Easy~ It often takes several attempts to stop before it sticks.

Hey, what can I say?  This is my old ass.

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Oopps!

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Okay, Easy, give us some stats on yerself. How tall you be?

4'11 and 411 pounds!

6'-0", 185lbs and meaner than a junk yard dawg! lol (I'm a pussy cat)

Well, I knew that last part! meow

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I'm a regular Crock-o-dog hunter!

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Getting Old.

Now this place is starting to feel more homey, with all the pictures.

Easy you have the nicest smile. Who is the female in the last photo? Ex or current? She has a nice smile also.

In some of the photos your eyes look blue and in some they look green. What color are they?

Yeah, who's da lady, Easy? Ya got those hazel eyes, dontcha?

Easy! You best get on over to the lively! FOM is offering to massage you!  :shock:  :shock:  :shock:  :shock:  :shock:  :shock:

Eyes have always been blue.  Must be the camera, or the computer changing them.

That was the sweetest little English woman I ever met.  I loved the way she said "Mickel" and then....  Nevermind!

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hey Easy... want to start another story that we can all work on?  That was kind of fun before....  I think we should start it in a new thread though... I would hate to get your place all messy!!

Sure, take me there and I will follow.  Let me start the prose.

The moon filled an Arkansas sky.  It was a restless night and the sheets were tied into a knot.  Strawberry hair danced across the hot Arkansas night and moved toward the window.  A silhouette veiled the window, while Azaleas played with the wind and dropped toward the manicured lawn.  The silver moon held her eyes steady, but she became weak and her knees buckled.

The cell phone chirped…..

breathing heavily, she grabbed the phone as her lifeline.  She smelled the scent of clove cigarettes, she hated and yet loved that smell.  It gave her that old familiar feeling, right in the pit of her stomach.  With a sigh, she picked herself up off the floor....

Her face lay close to the burled nap and a Japanese soap opera played while Spanish captions scrolled across the bottom of the screen.

“Huh”
“Hey, wake up!”

Memories seem to fade away and the sell of bacon frying took over.

She shook herself mentally, an internal dialouge seemed to wage war within her... should she finally tell someone?  The secret had been burdening her for so long.  she was sorry she ever ...

Hey Easy,

This is still your place. You need to get back in here. We miss you.

Right??/He left me hanging with the story.... :(

Easy.......you sure do have a big fan club!
They are actually hanging on your every word.  :lol:

Tralalalala...

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Thank you, Anna, for that lovely pic. I see Easy as a strong romantic guy who has suffered one too many disappointments and one too many losses. I hope to God we can welcome him back.

Easy, if you read here and have not been banned please come back at least to here. We miss you. JMHO

You were here for me when I needed you and we want to be here for you.

Sam

Easy, where in the heck are ya at?? Get back in here and finish the story!

I hope it's not a bad sign that we haven't seen Easy lately.

No fair worrying me.  I have my hands full, thank you.

Ok  Easy,
It is not fair to worry us so. You have been away longer than I have. Could you at least make a post in here just to let us know you are ok?
You could aslo let us know where you are posting. LOL

Please , Sam