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« on: June 07, 2007, 02:35:36 PM »

Tomorrow, my only child graduates from High School.  I am thankful he has been a great kid. I am happy he has reached this milestone safe and  happy. Very Happy

  We have sure had  trying times the past few months.  Typical teenager stuff, but nonetheless, after having my eyes opened to the bad things that can happen, I've had my share of sleepless nights.

He is going to Maine Maritime Academy for Marine Operations Engineering and to fulfill his passion of playing NCAA Div III College Football.  He will be leaving in Early August.  

I am swimming in a pond of mixed emotions.  I am proud of his accomplishments.  And yet, I am sad to see him go.  Crying or Very sad  He'll still need us, but in a different way...won't he?
He'll be 3-4 hours away from us.  

If there is a parent's survival guide for their kid going to college out there, please let me know.  I have no idea what I should/shouldn't be doing. What should I expect from this empty nest syndrome?

I'd love to hear of the experiences from my monkey friends Smile

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« Reply #1 on: June 07, 2007, 04:29:53 PM »

No kids at all MsDV -- so no first hand stories to share.

But I wanted to congratulate on the very apparent great job you've done raising your son so far.

Congratulations on his graduation. I'm sure you are very proud. You deserve to be Smile
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« Reply #2 on: June 07, 2007, 08:54:44 PM »

Ms DV, when my daughter (only child) left home to pursue her career, I thought I was going to die. For 18 years I had been with her almost every day & night. I made myself stay busy. Eventually I learned to really like the nest being empty. Not that I didn't miss her but it gave me a freedom I had forgot about. If it helps any, they will always need you. My daughter is now 30, married & will become a mom herself late this fall. Trust me, she still calls every day & we are closer than ever.
Hang in there. You can do this.
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« Reply #3 on: June 07, 2007, 09:16:27 PM »

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My only child graduated last year.  Three days after graduation he left to work and live at an amusment park (voted the best in the world).  WOW talk about shock!!  It is only 45 minutes away but with my injury I can't drive that far.  He only came home once, for his graduation party.    Needless to say I missed the hustle and bustle of his friends in and out.  It was lonley and quiet. I got another cat.

 What helped me get through it was knowing that he was happy and doing what he wanted to do.  I was proud of myself that I raised him to be independent and not afraid to go out into the world and go for it.  He started college when he came home and as soon as it let out for summer off to the amusment park he went.

 He called today and told me that he put in an application to work at Universal Studios in Florida and he would take online classes for college if he got hired.  My head was screaming That IS TOO FAR AWAY!!!!!  NO YOU CAN"T GO THAT FAR FROM ME!!!   But what I really said to him was that if that is what he wants to do it's up to him and I would support him.

Yes he will still need you.  I don't think you ever stop needing your mom.  I am 42 and my mom passed 15 years ago.  Many many many times I wish she was here cuz I need her.
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« Reply #4 on: June 07, 2007, 10:05:41 PM »

Sharon-  Thank you for your kind words.  


Yapperz and Marlee- Thank you both, for the stories.  I know I am not the only one that goes through a graduation, I just needed to hear how other Mom's experienced it.  

You all have made me feel encouraged that I will find a way to fill the void

Yapperz, Congrats on becoming a Grandma soon!  That has to be a wonderful feeling Very Happy
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« Reply #5 on: June 07, 2007, 10:31:36 PM »

MsDV ~ I find it interesting that we all have ONLYs ~ our son graduated from college recently and is now in law school.  I'm gonna try not to ramble, although I do that quite well.  He went to college about 2.5 hours away from us.  My heart ached when we left him at the dorm, but he was so happy and excited.  I knew things would never be the same, but not necessarily in a bad way~ just different.  He would visit and bring friends for the weekend; that meant so much to us.  We knew he felt comfortable doing that, as he had friends over all the time in high school, too.

We talked with him pretty often, and went up to Fort Worth for football games, fraternity stuff  Rolling Eyes , and any other excuse we could cook up  Wink .  Really though, we didn't see him that much, and it was okay.  Easier than I thought it would be.  Since I teach school, my days were filled with work, and yes, the evenings were pretty quiet for us.  Do you work outside the home?  

My main concern has ALWAYS been his safety ~ I tend to obsess, so you can imagine how it is when the phone/email isn't answered.  To be honest, I would just freak......he realized real quickly that he really needed to take responsibility for at least letting us know in advance if/when he was going on a road trip  Rolling Eyes, instead of getting a phone call in the middle of the night saying he'd thrown his wallet away in a McDonald's sack.  Yes, that happened.  I can laugh now, but a 2am phone call gets that adrenaline pumping!

It sounds as if y'all have done a super job with your son ~ he will do great ~ it is hard, but you will be and are now, so so very proud of him.  Yes, they do goofy things.  Now we all laugh, but at the time it can be aggravating, to say the least.  Oh yes, and about the past few months, you know he's just distancing himself from y'all ~ no matter how close he is to you both, it is easier for him (he doesn't know this, yet) to put a little space between you; that way the goodbye won't be so heartwrenching.

I have lots of interests - genealogy, antiquing, scrapbooking, reading Ann Rule novels......that helps, too.

So sorry for such a long long reply.
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« Reply #6 on: June 08, 2007, 02:13:06 PM »

Tcumom

Thank you,  I truly appreciate your ramblings,  they meant a lot to me.  I can understand what you have said, it makes total sense.

Yes I work both at home and outside the home.  I do stained glass and embroidery as hobbies, as well as scrapbooking.

I have always enjoy'd the house full of his friends too, and hope that continues on the long weekends.

I'm off to get ready4 hours to go
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« Reply #7 on: June 08, 2007, 02:21:45 PM »

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Tcumom

Thank you,  I truly appreciate your ramblings,  they meant a lot to me.  I can understand what you have said, it makes total sense.

Yes I work both at home and outside the home.  I do stained glass and embroidery as hobbies, as well as scrapbooking.

I have always enjoy'd the house full of his friends too, and hope that continues on the long weekends.

I'm off to get ready4 hours to go

Have a great time and savor the moment ~ it is a combination of bursting with pride, and heart-tugging, too.  *You* will do great!  Please tell us how it went today ~
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« Reply #8 on: June 08, 2007, 10:37:32 PM »

oh man....this thread brings back some painful memories!!!!
darth.......oh...how i know how you feel! and it has been 7 years since my first born left for college! 2 years later her sister went to the same school! first time was sooooooooo hard....second time i was prepared, even tho my second daughter and i were extremely close. now...i realize...just because they have flown the coop....that due to 18 years of a close family that love each other....that they will always be just a phone call away....or a 2 hour car ride away!!!! still close....and still love being together!! so....take heart...and enjoy his successes!!!
btw tc.....my oldest daughter just finished her second year of law school! and joy o joy....she just found out yesterday that she finally found a law clerk job for the summer...yipppeee!!!!
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« Reply #9 on: June 11, 2007, 08:28:45 AM »

Graduation went very well,  I only shed a few tears Wink   After Grad, the kids boarded a bus to head out for Project Graduation, which was incredible. It was held at a place called Riverton, which had an inground pool,  we set up a casino room and had another room with inflatable boxing ring, a bungee walk, a rock climbing wall  and a mechanical bull.  They had a hypnotist for 2 hours,  that was the best.  I went because I worked on the Project Grad comittee and chaperoned the all night party.  Tons of food and fun.  And Prizes were awesome,  from gas cards, to microwaves,  every student that attended, got a gift bag with over 100$ of stuff in it.



Check this out
308 students that graduated.
100 graduated with a gpa of 2.67-3.0
75 graduated with a gpa of 3.1-3.33
and 20 graduated with a gpa of 3.33 to 4.3

Pretty impressive
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« Reply #10 on: June 14, 2007, 09:40:19 AM »

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Graduation went very well,  I only shed a few tears Wink   After Grad, the kids boarded a bus to head out for Project Graduation, which was incredible. It was held at a place called Riverton, which had an inground pool,  we set up a casino room and had another room with inflatable boxing ring, a bungee walk, a rock climbing wall  and a mechanical bull.  They had a hypnotist for 2 hours,  that was the best.  I went because I worked on the Project Grad comittee and chaperoned the all night party.  Tons of food and fun.  And Prizes were awesome,  from gas cards, to microwaves,  every student that attended, got a gift bag with over 100$ of stuff in it.



Check this out
308 students that graduated.
100 graduated with a gpa of 2.67-3.0
75 graduated with a gpa of 3.1-3.33
and 20 graduated with a gpa of 3.33 to 4.3

Pretty impressive



the high school here has an all-night party too. they set up a casino, play for paper money...then have an auction at the end for lots of cool prizes. then they take a bus to a local cinema for a movie aroun 4 in the am. i took part in both of my girls parties.....good idea...keeps the kids off the streets...safe environment! your party sounds even better.....i will have to share those ideas to friends of mine that have graduates next year!!!
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« Reply #11 on: June 14, 2007, 10:46:24 PM »

As my daughter grew up, she was worried she would have to move out when she reached 18. I told her not to worry, she could stay forever.

When she was 18, she left for Jerusalem and I cried every day for three months.  The "empty nest syndrome" hit me and that's when my life with shrinks began.
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« Reply #12 on: June 16, 2007, 05:48:47 PM »

I have one who just graduated this year.  She is my 2nd child.  My oldest is 24.   But for this one, it was a pure miracle she graduated.  She struggled through school since kindergarten.  We got tutors for years to keep her passing each year.  I had her tested so many times for ADD, but they always diagnosed her as borderline and I could never get any help through the school system.  When she hit 6th grade, we recieved the biggest blessing in our life.  Her 6th grade math teacher and her cheerleading coach, was a very young and faithful christian,  who's father is a preacher.  She sort of adopted Jordan and became a close friend to the family.  She has helped my daughter ever since then and has been such a great role model and and encouragement for her.  Thanks to her a few other teacher along the way who seriously cared enough to go the extra mile to help her, she would not be graduating this year.   So THIS  is year to celebrate!  Very Happy

With my oldest, I had a similar situation as Louise.  She graduated and eventually moved to NY.  We were very close and I was so devastated.  I cried and cried and it took me almost a year to get over it, especially because she had a baby, which was another blow I felt I lost out on.   But since then, we talk on the phone all the time and visit each other 3 or 4 times a yr.  it's not as bad as I thought it would be..  In fact, when she comes to visit with the baby, I am so used to having an "almost" empty nest,  as much as I enjoy them and the time I have with them, I am almost releived when she is gone.   After four years, It's funny how I have adjusted and have a new routine, and the grandbaby who is 4 now, keeps me on my toes when he is here, which I'm not used to, God love him!   I need some time to relax after the visits  Laughing
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