JSM's BEGGING FOR BANNING #29 10/24/11 -

[Green Eyes]

Happy new year monkeys!

Here is a group of photos my son did - enjoy!

http://s673.photobucket.com/albums/vv99/theboyzmom/aarons%20pictures/

Cool pictures TBM  Thanks for sharing.

[Sister]

Happy new year monkeys!

Here is a group of photos my son did - enjoy!

http://s673.photobucket.com/albums/vv99/theboyzmom/aarons%20pictures/

Great photos -- this is the way I like to see snow . . . from afar!
 

[trimmonthelake]

Happy new year monkeys!

Here is a group of photos my son did - enjoy!

http://s673.photobucket.com/albums/vv99/theboyzmom/aarons%20pictures/

Nice job! 

[theboyzmom]

Happy new year monkeys!

Here is a group of photos my son did - enjoy!

http://s673.photobucket.com/albums/vv99/theboyzmom/aarons%20pictures/

Great photos -- this is the way I like to see snow . . . from afar!
 

I agree with you but the stupid stuff keeps showing up every year. The snow he photographed melted soon after - right now we have almost none - but the west side of the state is supposed to be getting about a 6 inches to a foot! Yuck!

[can]

Well I have had an eventful afternoon.  Sitting at the kitchen counter writing thank you notes and a taper candle in a candle stick exploded and caught the counter on fire.  Glass was flying, fire was leaping on Christmas cards, etc.  Tried at first to smother the fire, which did not work and then went for the water.  The counter top is ruined and it was just installed a few months ago.  It has scared the beegees out of me.  One thing I know, all four smoke detectors on this level work very well.  I know I am blessed the fire didn't land on me and I got it under control pretty fast.  The scarf, etc. was burned up as well.  But again, it could have been worse.  Not cheap candles so not sure what cause it to explode.  My nerves are shot and I'm going to bed.

How frightening for you Sister!  I'm so glad you were not burned.
I've never heard of a wax taper candle exxploding.  Have you considered notifying the manufacturer?  Thank goodness you were in the room when it happened or it could have been so much worse.
 

Good morning Can.  So good to read things are improving with your family.  You remain in my prayers (I say special prayers for your Mom).
I have had the candles for quite some time and don't even remember where I bought them.  They were shaped like a pine tree with little white blops of wax at the tips like snow.  I had used them for decoration only and thought now was the time to burn them as they were getting a little dusty.  I had a wax catcher on there so I thought it would be safer.  I just thought wrong.  No more fancy candles for me.

Thank you for your prayers Sister.  I shall be seeing my Mom today.

Great description of your candles Sister. 
I use the jar candles most of the time, as I have become more forgetful about extinguishing them.  Read here that they too can be dangerous if burnt too far.  Lesson - burning candles requires caution.
Happy, healthy New Year Sister!      

[can]

Happy New Year monkeys!

[can]

May everyone have a wonderful new year filled with many blessings, much happiness, and lots of good health.

Thank you Sister!   -   back atcha  ::justice2NJ::

[pharlap]

Happy new year monkeys!

Here is a group of photos my son did - enjoy!

http://s673.photobucket.com/albums/vv99/theboyzmom/aarons%20pictures/

Cool pictures TBM  Thanks for sharing.

He's got an eye for this.  Fantastic pic's!   

[Sister]

Well I have had an eventful afternoon.  Sitting at the kitchen counter writing thank you notes and a taper candle in a candle stick exploded and caught the counter on fire.  Glass was flying, fire was leaping on Christmas cards, etc.  Tried at first to smother the fire, which did not work and then went for the water.  The counter top is ruined and it was just installed a few months ago.  It has scared the beegees out of me.  One thing I know, all four smoke detectors on this level work very well.  I know I am blessed the fire didn't land on me and I got it under control pretty fast.  The scarf, etc. was burned up as well.  But again, it could have been worse.  Not cheap candles so not sure what cause it to explode.  My nerves are shot and I'm going to bed.

How frightening for you Sister!  I'm so glad you were not burned.
I've never heard of a wax taper candle exxploding.  Have you considered notifying the manufacturer?  Thank goodness you were in the room when it happened or it could have been so much worse.
 

Good morning Can.  So good to read things are improving with your family.  You remain in my prayers (I say special prayers for your Mom).
I have had the candles for quite some time and don't even remember where I bought them.  They were shaped like a pine tree with little white blops of wax at the tips like snow.  I had used them for decoration only and thought now was the time to burn them as they were getting a little dusty.  I had a wax catcher on there so I thought it would be safer.  I just thought wrong.  No more fancy candles for me.

Thank you for your prayers Sister.  I shall be seeing my Mom today.

Great description of your candles Sister. 
I use the jar candles most of the time, as I have become more forgetful about extinguishing them.  Read here that they too can be dangerous if burnt too far.  Lesson - burning candles requires caution.
Happy, healthy New Year Sister!      

Have a good visit with your Mom today . . . lots of light headed your way.

[4 Donks]

Well my sisters made treats for the donks for Christmas. You know the rice crispy/marshmallow bars..well they added cherios and bran to the mixture and the guys love them BUT I now am trapped on 60 acres with 4 donks on a sugar high.. 

Everyone have a healthy and happy New Year.

[Bearlyhere]

Thank you so much for your wonderful wishes.

Merry Christmas to all of you!

 

  I hope it was a great Christmas Bearly.  

Yes, it was.  

We were invited to breakfast with a friend, early dinner with my Parents with a visit from my brother, SIL, 2 nephews and niece afterward, dinner with my brother and his family, and late dinner with a neighbor.  This was after Christmas Eve at my brother's and then a neighbor who made lobster for Cubby for his Christmas present and roast and lasagna for me.

I loved a holiday that included family, friends, and neighbors!  Lots of love.  
 

       

So happy you enjoyed your holiday with your family. Wow I bet you are still stuffed will all those dinner. Can I come to your neighbor's for Christmas next year??? I love lobster and roast 

I prayed you had a good Christmas and I am so glad it turned out the way it did. My prayers were answered. 

Yes.  You can come here.  Thanks for the prayers.

Sister, I am so sorry about the fire.

Can, I am so glad your brother is feeling better.

Turning the touch pad off works great, thank you!

Babybear, congrats on the new Grand nephew.

Brandi, thanks for the peach pie.

Cookie, how was the lake?

Sorry so many are sick, hope you feel better soon.

Happy New Year all!!!

 

[Bearlyhere]

Hope everyone is having a great after holiday season.

I am so sick and tired of seeing stories on the news about murder suicide. Why kill your kids, wife and family members then kill yourself? I just don't understand. Especially at Christmas.    So sad and horribly tragic.

Maybe the thought is, they can no longer take care of themselves and their families, and rather than watch their families hurting, they end their (what they presume to be) suffering.  When people are distraught, they are not thinking rationally.  We really do not know what is going on in their heads, but that would be my guess.  In reality, there are probably as many reasons as are people who have done this.

Something I learned in school was that people freeze to death within a very short distance of safety.  If people could hold on just a little bit more, take it one minute/hour/day at a time instead of thinking about everything at the same time, it will help.
 
The holiday season is a very stressful time for people.  I would even say everyone to some degree.  There is no picture perfect Christmas.  Add the cost of visiting, food, presents, gas, clothing, church.  Each year, the pressure seems to get higher. 

Our normal bills are higher, just for the necessities.  Like it or not, a phone, computer, TV, and cell phone are all necessities, especially if you have children or are a shut in.  I think one or more of those people exist in every household.  Then add to that the cost of food (which has gotten a lot higher), soap (for body, dishes, laundry, cleaning), clothing, gas, insurance, water, etc.  and health care costs.

Our social worker told me when I first started caring for a child with special needs the thought of doing something occurs to everyone at one time or another or even several times when there is so much stress.  Going through with it, however, was not normal.  The thought is normal, the deed is not. 

When she first told me that, it scared me, I did not have feelings as bad as she had when she had young kids, but I felt the frustration, and realized, the feelings were normal.  It helped so much, just to know I was feeling the same way others feel.

Bearly, you have really struck a cord with me with what you have written.  When I first started taking care of George at home I would become so frustrated with the amount of extra work, extra money, and extra emotions it took to be a caregiver.  He would do the darnest things which made no sense and just cause my frustration level to rise.  There were times I thought I just couldn't handle it, but I knew the alternative was a nursing home and I felt then he would die there and I couldn't stand that thought.  The best way I can describe it was I developed a split personality in that I would respond to him in a calm, kind voice, but on the inside I was raging.  Over time the calm person became bigger than the raging person until now I seldom feel the rage.  But responsibilities can be so overwhelming when you feel there is no where to turn and no one to turn to who will understand.
I have been so blessed with a loving family and friends who I can vent to and be a raging fool.  But the truth is I have thought how much simplier my life would be without having to be a caregiver.  Now 22 years have passed and I still take care of him.  Then my sister becomes disabled and I have now accepted, though not willingly, caregiving is one of my roles in life.  It takes patience I never thought I had -- but my prevailing thoughts are doing the right thing and doing what I would want someone else to do for me.
It is so true we can have thoughts which if known publicly would shame us, but the difference is we don't act upon them.  I call it the Holy Glue that keeps me together.  I understand frustration, but I will never understand taking someone's life to ease my own pain.  I don't think I know what that line is that keeps me (and others) from going over the edge, but I am glad it is there.
Thank you so much for sharing your heart.

Thank you for sharing your heart, also, Sister.  Caregiving is definitely one of my roles in life.

[Bearlyhere]

Remember the case 4 donks opened a thread on in our "Crimes Against Children, Elderly and the Disabled", that concerned a child whose parents had duct taped her face and bound her ankles & wrists and posted it on FB?  Well, the couple have been arrested.  Good!  But what makes me really mad and sad is the latest article update says not only was the two year old mistreated in this fashion, they also did the same to a 10 month old infant!!    And not only that, they had hung one of the children upside down!  
Edit:  I've discovered this is actually a second case, and involves an toddler and an infant and occurred in Arizona, as where the first case posted here (by 4 donks) was a toddler and occurred in Chicago.   
Here's the link to the thread 4 donks started and the update article I've just posted:

http://scaredmonkeys.net/index.php?topic=12545.0
Duct Taped Child on Facebook- Chicago

What is it with these people??!!  

Here's the link to the thread I've started that is actually a different case, and involves a toddler and an infant and occurred in Arizona.
http://scaredmonkeys.net/index.php?topic=12572.msg1499388#msg1499388
Photos of 2 Duct Taped and Bound Children Posted on Facebook - Arizona Case
  

How very sickening.  I don't know what makes people cross the line, as Sister said, from thoughts to actions.  Thank God for facebook, or these criminals might never be found.  They not only did it, they took pictures.  My heart goes out to the children, how frightened they must have been.

An incident happened near here several years a go where a wife took pictures of what she said the husband did to the child with duct tape.  The wife ended up being arrested, there was no proof the husband did it.

It reminds me of the African saying, when two elephants fight, it is the grass that gets trampled.

So very very sad.

[Bearlyhere]

Insurance adjuster just here along with the Trustee for the parsonage.  Almost $2,000 in damage, not counting my area rug which was burned and other miscellaneous items.  Grateful the company was on the ball and sent someone right away.  Now I can clean up this mess as best I can.

Sister, you have an angel watching over you.

 

[Bearlyhere]

Good Morning Monkeys!

Just been lurking lately - hope all are doing well.

Chubbie and The Criminal

  Caddy!!!! Stop lurking, hope all is well with the family. Miss you 

Thanks JSM and all the monkeys that have prayed for my family.  My dad is doing wonderful, thanks be to God and some wonderful doctors and following their guidance.  My Mom is not doing well.  Just when we think there is an answer in getting the help she needs, an obstacle arises.  Every day brings challenges and different opinions of what she needs, whether it be from family or doctors.  It is truly a very heavy burden on one's heart.  Just keep my Mom in your prayers...Cad

Cad, you were forgotten in my post earlier, but not in my prayers.  Please post your feelings, there are those here who have been, and are, caretakers.  Sharing with those who care about you, and we do, really helps.

 

[Bearlyhere]

So, the sort of good news is that they did not total the truck. Going to take a week or so to be fixed. I had kind of set my heart on a new one. Oh well, perhaps I can talk hubs into it yet!

I hope your aches have gone away.

 

[Bearlyhere]

I think JSM needs these watches to go with her golf bag and shoes    (hint hint CC)


http://tinyurl.com/7kyaw8a

 

[Bearlyhere]

Happy New Years Eve Monkeys!!!!!!!!!!!!

Been busy with Patton, got my eyes checked and new glasses ordered. Went and visited friends at Pet Lodge and had lots of laughs. Woke up at 5 and couldn't go back to sleep. Don't think I will make it past 8, much less midnight.

I will catch up tomorrow monkeys. God Bless you one and all and may we all have a GREAT 2012!!!!!!!!!!!!!!   

JSM, we slept together on New Year's Eve.  We went out to dinner with my neighbor and I took a nap before I went to my cousin's house and slept the New Year away.  Never made the party.  Next year you have New Year's Eve with your honey.  I guess we won't be sleeping together next year.

 

[Bearlyhere]

Thanks, Brandi!  Same to you!

 

[Bearlyhere]

                                  Happy New Years Monkeys   

Have the grandsons and the three grand pups. Hope everyone has a wonderful evening. May the new Year bring lots of Love, Laughter and Joy. May we see justice served for all the missing. 

Thanks Red for a place where we can express our joy and sorrow over all the missing. Thanks Klaas and all the mods for your hard work keeping us all in line.

Thanks, Green Eyes, and thank you for your friendship!