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« Reply #560 on: April 17, 2012, 08:46:36 AM »

Morning everyone.
Thoughts going out to monkeys who are care givers...difficult ....
Been there, done that...
Don't forget to take care of you along the way..
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« Reply #561 on: April 17, 2012, 09:12:39 AM »

Bearly hon, as I recently dealt with my dad as his care giver PLEASE the most important thing is to take care of yourself, first and foremost!

Mentally & most important physically it can wear YOU down, listen to your doctor, take a step back you can't do it on your own.....Zanax was a lifesaver so don't fret about having to to take "mothers little helpers" they have a place in your life right now!

My dad became the meanest, most vile person both mentally & physically abusive and it was almost totally directed at me, being that I was closest to him and had the total responsibilty for his care.

  It never gets better, there are no fix-its for the patient, no happy pills that will bring them back to who they once were, so please don't wait for that "Someday" daddy or mom will suddenly re-appear, please try and remember that.....They are no longer with us mentally no matter how much we want them to get better.

Point being once again......TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF........If you have to completely walk away from the situation, than DO IT.......No guilt, don't let other family members lay that on you, they are shucking their responsibilties and it matters not what they say......you....and only you are whats important!   

You have a wonderful son that needs his mom .... and if you let this wear you down, who will be there for him?  Put the two of you first, please hon, there is nothing more important.  Your parents gave you life and cherish the time you have had them, but let go when you must for yourself ...... please.......from one thats been there as so many of us have....We all love you and need our Bearly!

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« Reply #562 on: April 17, 2012, 10:07:47 AM »

We had to take my mother in law to a retirement center after 2 1/2 years of her living with us. It was the worst 2 1/2 years of my life..it was hard on our marriage,hard for my hubs, myself and my mother in law when she lived with us. The more I did for her, the more he expected me to do. She refused to cook for herself once she moved in with us...she wanted her dinner by 5:00..  Hubs got home around 6:00.. I was serving dinner twice in the evening...that got old real quick..if she wanted to eat with us, she would have to wait until hubs ot home or cook for herself. She had her own kitchen but wanted me to wait on her...
When she oved into her own apartment for assisted living, we were all happier. We enjoyed her  when we saw her instead of resenting her. She had her own place again and social life with people her own age etc..it was a win win for all of us...hubs and I felt like kids on spring break once she was gone..we had our house back to ourselves...woo hoo!
There were family members who could not understand my frustration of having her live with us,,,however, those who were the first to tsk tsk tsk at me were the last to pack a bag and come over to give hubs and I a break..
MIL has since moved onto a nursing home at her own request. She feels safe there with medical people available in case something happens...easier that it was her ideal and not ours...she will be 91 in November ! She has her wits about her completely..it is amazing really...and she get around by herself..
She is happy, we are happy..but it took a lot of tears and frustration to get there. You feel like your whole life is wrapped around this person and in some ways, it is...caregivers have to let go of the guilt and get your own life back....I have seen it over and over with my friends..and lived it myself.
Some elder parents are considerate of their children who help take care of them, others just expect it like my MIl...oh, and we also help her out financially as she and my father in law did not plan for their old age...they expected that my hubs who is their only child would take care of them and that is exactly what is happening.  Sigh...
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« Reply #563 on: April 17, 2012, 10:58:06 AM »

Good day my monkeys!  Hope everyone is having a blessed day - guess I will head off to my little job - and thanks for everyone sharing their stories about care giving - it DOES make it easier to cope.
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« Reply #564 on: April 17, 2012, 11:21:12 AM »

Good day my monkeys!  Hope everyone is having a blessed day - guess I will head off to my little job - and thanks for everyone sharing their stories about care giving - it DOES make it easier to cope.


It does make it easier to cope. I even joined an online support group for caregivers which was like an oasis in the desert..finally, others who were going through the same things that I was going through, who were non judgmental ! It was a wonderful place for peace and understanding....I urge others to try the support groups for care givers..

Have a wonderful day Cadi and others.
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« Reply #565 on: April 17, 2012, 11:58:39 AM »

cookie, I think many are willing to give advice and judgement but few are actually willing to give up their time and energy to care for an elder. 
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« Reply #566 on: April 17, 2012, 12:26:19 PM »

cookie, I think many are willing to give advice and judgement but few are actually willing to give up their time and energy to care for an elder. 

I think that is so true. I know that my BIL was full of advice on how to help mom - but no where around when it came time to do it.
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« Reply #567 on: April 17, 2012, 01:51:14 PM »

Trial against Tammi the Enima woman in the Baby Gabriel case just started.
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« Reply #568 on: April 17, 2012, 02:26:10 PM »

Trial against Tammi the Enima woman in the Baby Gabriel case just started.

Link to latest discussion thread:

http://scaredmonkeys.net/index.php?topic=7156.0
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« Reply #569 on: April 17, 2012, 02:41:45 PM »

Remains found in area searched for Zahra Baker.  They believe a skull is among the remains
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« Reply #570 on: April 17, 2012, 02:52:17 PM »

Remains found in area searched for Zahra Baker.  They believe a skull is among the remains

Found a URL for this story at http://www.wbtv.com/story/17515491/remains-found-in-area-previously-searched-in-zahra-baker-case
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« Reply #571 on: April 17, 2012, 04:20:03 PM »

Remains found in area searched for Zahra Baker.  They believe a skull is among the remains

Found a URL for this story at http://www.wbtv.com/story/17515491/remains-found-in-area-previously-searched-in-zahra-baker-case

Link to latest discussion thread for Zahra:
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« Reply #572 on: April 17, 2012, 07:29:42 PM »

Speaking of The Hunger Games...

I listened to the audio book this weekend.  Maybe I was tired of listening (I had only one more day left on my library check-out) so I was determined to finish it yesterday.  I liked the first part, since you had to use your imagination so much.  But the last part got old real fast.  Maybe the movie is better or I am tooo old for it?

Anyone read it?  It is so popular now...

Side note, I learned how to check out books on my IPad from the library.  It is pretty cool!  (Have I said that before to yall?)


Hi Bearly,

I LOVE my Ipad.  I did not ask for it, it was a gift from hubs for Christmas.

There is sooo much about it that I don't understand nor use.  Also, the family gave me a REAL phone for Christmas too.  So I was overwhelmed trying to come into this technology world.  (My cell was the basic free one you get with a plan!!  It died when I was at my Dad's trying to take care of him and my Mom was in the hospital - so it was way overdue for me to get a new one.)

I have discovered that there are some things the Ipad doesn't do - or I am too stoopid to figure it out.  The main adjustment is the keypad.  I am old school - took typing in school so not having a real keyboard is new.  The kids say I can get a keyboard to attach to it - but I really dont need that.  I do use my laptop when I chat with my sis - I can bang out some words in no time when we talk.

But it is really cool!  And I absolutely adore being able to check out books on it from our public library!!

Thinking about an Ipad, how do you like it?



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« Reply #573 on: April 17, 2012, 07:30:23 PM »

Sorry - got in your box there!!
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« Reply #574 on: April 17, 2012, 08:04:50 PM »

DON'T MISS THE DANA PRETZER SHOW AT 9PM ET!

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« Reply #575 on: April 17, 2012, 08:41:07 PM »

I use my iPad all the time..I love it..I am not as proficient on my iPad as I am on my desktop...not that I am good on that either...lol
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« Reply #576 on: April 18, 2012, 12:26:28 PM »

Good afternoon everyone.
 
Having some sprinkles of rain which we need.  Maybe this week we will get some actual rain and not just sprinkles.
Prayers for all who need them . . . that's all of us!
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« Reply #577 on: April 18, 2012, 01:04:16 PM »

Afternoon Monkeys,

Just heard from Trimm  She ask me to tell all of you She hopes everyone has a good day. She doesn't have very good service for her Droid. But she was going to try and read from time to time.  She is hanging in there and misses everyone.   
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« Reply #578 on: April 18, 2012, 04:13:24 PM »

http://www.foxnews.com/entertainment/2012/04/18/report-dick-clark-dies-at-age-82/

TV and music pioneer Dick Clark dies at age 82

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« Reply #579 on: April 18, 2012, 04:31:08 PM »


Rest In Peace Dick  an angelic monkey
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