MONKEY MUSINGS DAILY OPEN DISCUSSION #61 04/22/13 - 12/03/14

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[Bearlyhere]

Waylon is really growing and he's looking more relaxed somehow.  I think you guys have been great for him! 

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(It took me forever to find those little tent pointer things!)

I cannot believe how much he has grown.  I already see the heartbreaker in him.  He is one very lucky boy and you and John are amazing, I can see the happiness in his eyes!

 

[Bearlyhere]

Thanks, Klaas and Muffy. We really do try our best. I was able to work from home when Michael was little and was much younger; it was easier. Both John and I feel overwhelmed sometimes. I own a demanding business that isn't doing very well, and John does an incredible job keeping it going, but there are many times we take turns burning the midnight oil. The employees are "family" and we feel a tremendous responsibility and gratitude toward them, not to mention the patients who truly depend on us. It is what it is, and there are many, many blessings in what we're doing and we love him with all our hearts.

Waylon's doing just great! He was developmentally behind when we first got him, but not now! Because of his developmental level then, he was tested every 6 months until this past June when his testing showed consecutively two batteries that placed him at or above the average for his age in all areas of development. We celebrated at Shriner's hospital when they asked if we would donate his braces, because he didn't need to ever wear them again (a full 2 years before they had anticipated and minus one more surgery that was planned) !! I honestly attribute that success to better nutrition, lots of physical activity, and John put those braces on each night without fail and monitored the slack adjustments to get them just right. Waylon doesn't have even a slight limp, runs without falling (and falling was just part of life for a long time), and has become as coordinated as any kid his age. We have him in a tumbling class (which he loves) and can't keep him out of the pool. He's come a long way from never having seen a slide or knowing how to climb the ladder on it to "owning" any playground you can throw at him. We bought him a bike this summer (with training wheels) and he got it down in short order. There's a walking track around the playground and soccer field in my neighborhood, so it was level and perfect to let him ride. We grabbed a picture there as he ran us around that track trying to keep up!   



Waylon's made of strong stuff. He has some inner strength that is unusual for any four year old I've been around. He's so sweet, and very loving, and finally secure. The security took a while, but when his parent's visitation finally stopped, the last of the insecurity began. I think I know when it was fully worked out in his mind. Out of the blue one night, about 7 months ago, he marched into the kitchen where John and I were, and said, "Mommie, Daddy..... if something happened to you, I would have to find a new Mommie and Daddy!"  I didn't blink an eye. I bent down to his level, put my arms around him and said, "Waylon, we're not going anywhere, and as long as we're here, you'll be with us. But if you're worried about that, you wouldn't have to look for a Mommie and Daddy........... Michael and April would be your Mommie and Daddy and they wouldn't have it any other way." He nodded his head once, pointed at me, and said, "Good idea, Mom!", walked out of the kitchen and you could tell from his walk, it was settled for him.  He had never mentioned a single word about any of the current arrangement, and we've wondered how much he remembered and understood. "John" and "Susan" gave way to "Mommie" and "Daddy" purely on his own. We've made absolutely sure that any event involving "family" volunteer participation at school or church, wasn't missed because it seems so important to him and at first, he would almost announce to his class mates, "That's my Mommie" or "That's my Daddy"! He adores my son, his wife, and her son, and counts them as family, as they do him. He sees his Great Grandmother (who had him until we did) whenever he or she asks but she's in failing health. John keeps home health checking on her between appointments, and he's referred her to a cardiology specialist. He stops by her house every 7-10 days just to lay eyes on her, bring her something I've cooked, and do her vitals. She has moved into a house that we're concerned about. There's virtually no insulation, it doesn't look or feel stable, and the single light bulb fixtures in the ceilings are worrisome to me. I cannot imagine the wiring is safe for anything. There's a wood stove with a cinder block chimney; the only heat. Her son got the toilet working, but it's at the end of a dirt road that ruts out before you get there, one holler over from where she was, and would be impossible to get to in snow. It's literally on the side of a mountain. My car won't make it now......... John's 4 wheel drive truck works. It's a lot bigger than where she was. That's as positive as I know how to be about it. There's public housing really close to the clinic, but she absolutely refuses to consider it. Well, after already giving you 1,000 words, a picture says it most clearly:



She's so proud of Waylon and what he's learned! She loves him and it's mutual. She did all she could for as long as she could and the best she knew how. We would never keep them from each other, but although she wants us to let him spend the night, we haven't. I just worry something would happen to one of them, so we've had her stay with us on occasion and nervously leave him with her for a couple of hours at a time. She's too sick, at this point, so it's not an issue right now. Anyway, I've run off the mouth enough... sorry guys! I'm too busy living it to have a chance to talk about it and I'm afraid I've taken a cracked door and  bent your ears!

Ahhhhh hummmmm........... Yeah, Waylon's going great and we're having a good time with him! Thanks for asking!   

CBB, this made me cry in every way you can cry.  I will pray for his Great Grandmother, she was his rock.  She should live in a palace and no doubt one day she will.

I wonder if she would move if her Great Grandson asked her to...

Where oh where is that lottery check I have been waiting for?

 

[Bearlyhere]

Thanks, Klaas and Muffy. We really do try our best. I was able to work from home when Michael was little and was much younger; it was easier. Both John and I feel overwhelmed sometimes. I own a demanding business that isn't doing very well, and John does an incredible job keeping it going, but there are many times we take turns burning the midnight oil. The employees are "family" and we feel a tremendous responsibility and gratitude toward them, not to mention the patients who truly depend on us. It is what it is, and there are many, many blessings in what we're doing and we love him with all our hearts.

Waylon's doing just great! He was developmentally behind when we first got him, but not now! Because of his developmental level then, he was tested every 6 months until this past June when his testing showed consecutively two batteries that placed him at or above the average for his age in all areas of development. We celebrated at Shriner's hospital when they asked if we would donate his braces, because he didn't need to ever wear them again (a full 2 years before they had anticipated and minus one more surgery that was planned) !! I honestly attribute that success to better nutrition, lots of physical activity, and John put those braces on each night without fail and monitored the slack adjustments to get them just right. Waylon doesn't have even a slight limp, runs without falling (and falling was just part of life for a long time), and has become as coordinated as any kid his age. We have him in a tumbling class (which he loves) and can't keep him out of the pool. He's come a long way from never having seen a slide or knowing how to climb the ladder on it to "owning" any playground you can throw at him. We bought him a bike this summer (with training wheels) and he got it down in short order. There's a walking track around the playground and soccer field in my neighborhood, so it was level and perfect to let him ride. We grabbed a picture there as he ran us around that track trying to keep up!   



Waylon's made of strong stuff. He has some inner strength that is unusual for any four year old I've been around. He's so sweet, and very loving, and finally secure. The security took a while, but when his parent's visitation finally stopped, the last of the insecurity began. I think I know when it was fully worked out in his mind. Out of the blue one night, about 7 months ago, he marched into the kitchen where John and I were, and said, "Mommie, Daddy..... if something happened to you, I would have to find a new Mommie and Daddy!"  I didn't blink an eye. I bent down to his level, put my arms around him and said, "Waylon, we're not going anywhere, and as long as we're here, you'll be with us. But if you're worried about that, you wouldn't have to look for a Mommie and Daddy........... Michael and April would be your Mommie and Daddy and they wouldn't have it any other way." He nodded his head once, pointed at me, and said, "Good idea, Mom!", walked out of the kitchen and you could tell from his walk, it was settled for him.  He had never mentioned a single word about any of the current arrangement, and we've wondered how much he remembered and understood. "John" and "Susan" gave way to "Mommie" and "Daddy" purely on his own. We've made absolutely sure that any event involving "family" volunteer participation at school or church, wasn't missed because it seems so important to him and at first, he would almost announce to his class mates, "That's my Mommie" or "That's my Daddy"! He adores my son, his wife, and her son, and counts them as family, as they do him. He sees his Great Grandmother (who had him until we did) whenever he or she asks but she's in failing health. John keeps home health checking on her between appointments, and he's referred her to a cardiology specialist. He stops by her house every 7-10 days just to lay eyes on her, bring her something I've cooked, and do her vitals. She has moved into a house that we're concerned about. There's virtually no insulation, it doesn't look or feel stable, and the single light bulb fixtures in the ceilings are worrisome to me. I cannot imagine the wiring is safe for anything. There's a wood stove with a cinder block chimney; the only heat. Her son got the toilet working, but it's at the end of a dirt road that ruts out before you get there, one holler over from where she was, and would be impossible to get to in snow. It's literally on the side of a mountain. My car won't make it now......... John's 4 wheel drive truck works. It's a lot bigger than where she was. That's as positive as I know how to be about it. There's public housing really close to the clinic, but she absolutely refuses to consider it. Well, after already giving you 1,000 words, a picture says it most clearly:



She's so proud of Waylon and what he's learned! She loves him and it's mutual. She did all she could for as long as she could and the best she knew how. We would never keep them from each other, but although she wants us to let him spend the night, we haven't. I just worry something would happen to one of them, so we've had her stay with us on occasion and nervously leave him with her for a couple of hours at a time. She's too sick, at this point, so it's not an issue right now. Anyway, I've run off the mouth enough... sorry guys! I'm too busy living it to have a chance to talk about it and I'm afraid I've taken a cracked door and  bent your ears!

Ahhhhh hummmmm........... Yeah, Waylon's going great and we're having a good time with him! Thanks for asking!   

CBB, this brought tears to my eyes.  Waylon is a special kid BUT by far you and John are special, special people also.  How lucky this child is to have you two in his life.  He is a beautiful little boy.

I understand how you feel about the grandmother's situation and her housing.  It is really amazing that people live in houses like that today but in the mountain areas it is very common.  So sad for her. 

Referring to you and John as Mommie and Daddy says it all.

 

Blue Moon, I had to check and make sure this was not my response.  We started out the same way.

I wish I could do something for her.  CBB and John are two people who are so very rare, I am glad they found each other.  I am wondering when the wedding is.  I think CBB has heard about my habit of crashing monkey weddings and she either got married without telling me or she is putting it off so I don't find out about it.  Hmmmm.....

I hope your foot feels better.  Anything Dr. John recommends to make it better?

[Bearlyhere]

Blue Moon, you give us way too much credit! Our intentions were to provide a bridge where it was clear one was needed. Beyond that, we haven't done anything that any of you wouldn't have done. Putting consideration of Waylon first was an obvious priority. With that in place, all we did was take it a day at a time and make choices accordingly. We thought, at one point, our job was done, but when that didn't work out, we were faced with letting him go back to his Great Grandmother, which was impossible for both of them, or placing him in foster care, which we were told was really bad. There's no choice there. Then there was dealing with court and his parent's bi-weekly visitations that took much longer than it should have. Had just one of them been willing to get a job; any job, he would have been returned to them, and we wouldn't have been able to do anything about it. The second the Judge told them he was sending out DHS to do a home evaluation, they panicked and rushed to us and said, "Get whatever paperwork you need and we'll sign it, as long as it stops DHS from coming out and we never have to go back to court."  That was an easy choice as well. We got them the paperwork. By then, Waylon wasn't the baby he was when he came to us, and we knew that finding the perfect parents was going to be harder than it would have been had the judge begun with a home visit. The attachment to us and us to him was also there. Although the paperwork allows us at anytime to simply take the few next steps to adoption, we haven't yet. No one can take him away from us, but no one could ever adopt him other than us if we took those steps. The insurance was also a factor. We were advised that if we entered the foster parent program, Waylon would be eligible for all kinds of subsidies (which is what his parents had in mind), but we knew they'd get busy trying to find him a permanent home and that there would be no transition time allowed. Again, there was no gut wrenching decision there either; we both knew it would be horrific for him to be pulled from us at a moment's notice, and that's exactly how it would be. He had come so far, and we couldn't let a set back happen if we could help it. The one benefit we have by leaving things as they are, is that Tn. medicaid takes care of his health needs, and when we checked on adding him to our policy, it's an additional $680.00 a month. In our financial circumstances, that makes a difference. Waylon's four and a half now and I can't foresee any changes happening. We didn't see this path from the beginning, but just tried to do what was best for him all along the way. Eventually, we'll adopt, because he retains his birth last name if we don't, and we don't want that to ever be an issue with him. Pre-school also costs about that much a month, so when we can give that cost up, we'll trade it for the insurance, and give him that resolution. We're nothing special. Anyone would have loved him and seen the need. My only regret is the length of time it took in court. I would have loved to have been able to facilitate a properly aged set of parents who could love him as their own, maybe even with siblings for him! Maybe even who would welcome a set of doting Grandparents! As it is, we'll continue to do our best every day, and trust that if God brought us to it, He'll see us through it!   

CBB, far be it from me to argue with you.     But if, and I say if I were the arguing kind, I would tell you no, this is not what anyone would do.  Please accept these accolades because you know how this pains me to be so sober when it comes to you.  I think you and John are a  among men (and women).  If anyone would do it, then his parents would and for whatever reason, they couldn't.  I am not going to check into one's heart to know whether they didn't or couldn't but I am going to say, just seeing the pictures of that loving child, that anyone who could, would take care of him and welcome him with loving arms if he was their child.  If I may be so bold, and far be it from me to be bold,    I think that he was always your child, just born into another family until he was able to find his way to you, his real Mom and Dad.

Oh, good grief, I am blubbering all over myself.         Here, this is for you, just in case.     (Did you notice it only rains under this umbrella?)     I'll get around to plugging that leak some day.

Better put on my other outfit that I use when you are around.     Oh wait, that it my George Clooney face.  Here you go.     This way I don't get the cage all wet.

I love you, Cutie!  It's nice to see your face in the place.  It gives it more character.   

(And what a character you are, too!)   

Did I tell you I love you?   

[Bearlyhere]

Blue Moon, you give us way too much credit! Our intentions were to provide a bridge where it was clear one was needed. Beyond that, we haven't done anything that any of you wouldn't have done. Putting consideration of Waylon first was an obvious priority. With that in place, all we did was take it a day at a time and make choices accordingly. We thought, at one point, our job was done, but when that didn't work out, we were faced with letting him go back to his Great Grandmother, which was impossible for both of them, or placing him in foster care, which we were told was really bad. There's no choice there. Then there was dealing with court and his parent's bi-weekly visitations that took much longer than it should have. Had just one of them been willing to get a job; any job, he would have been returned to them, and we wouldn't have been able to do anything about it. The second the Judge told them he was sending out DHS to do a home evaluation, they panicked and rushed to us and said, "Get whatever paperwork you need and we'll sign it, as long as it stops DHS from coming out and we never have to go back to court."  That was an easy choice as well. We got them the paperwork. By then, Waylon wasn't the baby he was when he came to us, and we knew that finding the perfect parents was going to be harder than it would have been had the judge begun with a home visit. The attachment to us and us to him was also there. Although the paperwork allows us at anytime to simply take the few next steps to adoption, we haven't yet. No one can take him away from us, but no one could ever adopt him other than us if we took those steps. The insurance was also a factor. We were advised that if we entered the foster parent program, Waylon would be eligible for all kinds of subsidies (which is what his parents had in mind), but we knew they'd get busy trying to find him a permanent home and that there would be no transition time allowed. Again, there was no gut wrenching decision there either; we both knew it would be horrific for him to be pulled from us at a moment's notice, and that's exactly how it would be. He had come so far, and we couldn't let a set back happen if we could help it. The one benefit we have by leaving things as they are, is that Tn. medicaid takes care of his health needs, and when we checked on adding him to our policy, it's an additional $680.00 a month. In our financial circumstances, that makes a difference. Waylon's four and a half now and I can't foresee any changes happening. We didn't see this path from the beginning, but just tried to do what was best for him all along the way. Eventually, we'll adopt, because he retains his birth last name if we don't, and we don't want that to ever be an issue with him. Pre-school also costs about that much a month, so when we can give that cost up, we'll trade it for the insurance, and give him that resolution. We're nothing special. Anyone would have loved him and seen the need. My only regret is the length of time it took in court. I would have loved to have been able to facilitate a properly aged set of parents who could love him as their own, maybe even with siblings for him! Maybe even who would welcome a set of doting Grandparents! As it is, we'll continue to do our best every day, and trust that if God brought us to it, He'll see us through it!   

I hear everything you are saying so I will admire you from afar.  In this day and age you are considered the few and far between.  You made that little boy your priority and look at him today.  Too many people today would not get involved and would not invest their time, energy or money to do what you have done.  We are in the midst of the "ME" generation and unfortunately this generation cannot put someone else ahead of them.  As Waylon gets older he will come to understand the sacrifices you have made for him.  He is special and you did what you thought was in his best interest.  I agree with Green Eyes, some things are meant to be.

You and Green Eyes have said this so eloquently.  You have said what I keep trying to say and no one is listening. 

My family is always trying to tell me to leave my Parents fend for themselves in the aged community they are living in.  I also cannot tell you how many times my SIL has said (about my son), I could not do what you are doing.  I know this really translates into I will not do what you are doing, please don't ask me for help.  My brother has taken it upon himself to send me messages to my phone every day (they are not even personal messages, but ones written out by a company who does this, so he could not be bothered to make it personal).  It is about being number one and empowering yourself and, well, Blue Moon, you have described this so on-point that I am not going to try to touch what you said. 

I can honestly say my brother loves me.  He honestly wants what is best for me and I know he does not like to see me do what I do with the pain I am in.  I, like CBB, have always felt that anyone would do this.  That is, until I was stopped by so many people in the halls where my Mom and Dad live, they tell me they notice what I am doing for my Parents.  I say this not because I think what I do is anything extraordinary, but because I see the hurt and need in their eyes (the people who are addressing me).  Ninety nine percent of the population walk around with this need in their eyes.  Their net worth does not make a difference.  There are people there that are on assistance and there are those that have plenty of money.  They are all in need of companionship. 

I am asking my fellow loving Monkeys this: if you drive by a nursing home or retirement center and you have 15 minutes to spare, just walk the hallways and say hi! to everyone you come across.  It makes a big difference in the lives of people who are never addressed by another human being without a uniform on.  If you have a couple of hours, volunteer.  You would be surprised how even the person with the worst issues will cease to be a person with an ailment, they will turn into a person, period.  You will stop seeing the disease or just their age itself and you will be better for it.  I don't mean you will be a better person, I mean you will have a better sense of history, if you ask them about their lives, and be in a better humor, even the person who is confused will say something to give you a chuckle or to brighten your day.  You will see these people for who they are and each time you come, you will know more and more people and you will know their personalities and then one day you will realize you look forward to coming as much or more than they look forward to you being there.  I promise you it will happen. 

I wish I could read you a text I wrote my brother after he lovingly told me he wants me to have a life and I DESERVE to have a life, it didn't say so take a little time off and I will visit Mom and Dad, no it just said for me to take time off (without a replacement was implied).  I explained to him how I was having a life and being with these people was fun and enlightening.  I don't think I could ever replicate that text because it was the truth and came from my heart to the text without stopping anywhere to water it down. 

Please, do yourself a favor, visit your family at a retirement center, get to know others there and you will also get to know your Parents in a different way.  You will not be disappointed, I promise you.  Visit someone with Alzheimer's, they may not remember you were there, but the happiness you bring for the time you are there will change them.

Thanks, Blue Moon, for reminding me to share this with people who may have time to spare.  I have heard some Monkeys say they wished they could change things.  Well, here is a start....

[Blue Moon]

Hey, CBB, here is what Kentucky just issued on coyotes.  They are having a time with them all over.  We have them coming into the surrounding subdivisions here, at night they sound like babies crying and screaming:

http://www.wbko.com/home/headlines/KY-Issues-Rules-on-Hunting-Coyotes-At-Night-226929611.html


We made it to the Smokies and left one day before the shutdown.  We made our rounds across Newfound Gap, Cades Cove, Cherakee.  We covered everything before they shut it down.  Stupid politicians!

Not CBB and never played her on TV, but wish I looked like her for even a month.

That is terrible!  The noise must be scary, too.  Please be careful!

      

How was the trip?  Did you enjoy it?  Hope you are well.  

How is Landrey?  She is in my thoughts and prayers.  Several people on my facebook are also following her and praying for her.  I also ask for prayers for her and others on facebook are more than willing to oblige.  Does she have a candle page?  Everything about this disease breaks my heart.  She always faces everything with a smile and makes my every day problems seem so trivial.

    

Oh Bearly, you are so sweet to think of Landry.  Thanks for keeping up with her.  She has her good days and her bad days.  They had her fitted for a walker so she can move around and that is helping her.  No candle page but I will bring that up to my niece and see if she will put one out there.  Yes, this disease is extremely bad.  She (to me) is a beautiful child and I cry everytime I look at her sweet little face and know her time is limited here on earth.  Bad thing is this new health care law might impact her treatments and the group of doctors taking care of her at Vanderbilt in Nashville.  See, our new health insurance now only covers you in the state of Kentucky only, no out of state hospitals or doctors.  Kosair Hospital in Louisville cannot handle this rare case and even they are not covered by our "affordable" health care.  I really don't know what will become with her if (and it looks very very likely) she cannot continue with her doctors in Vanderbilt.  This has affected Vanderbilt so bad that they are letting go over 1000 employees of the hospital.  Nashville is just about 60 miles from us and closer than Louisville but if you want 2nd opinions or the best treatment you go to Nashville.  There are just lots of illnesses they cannot handle here.  Landry's case is one.  They tried every hospital here in Kentucky before getting a referral to Vanderbilt.  Keep her in your thoughts and prayers.  I know I do every day.

Yes, coyotes are scarey at night time.  They are really getting close to our house and I know they are wondering the subdivision near us.  I heard them the other day and they were very very close. 

Thanks again.  You are a jewel to remember and think of our sweet Landry.

Maybe in her case there is a way around the normal ACA rules.  I'd double check and write a letter to your governor and the president.

Great idea, Klaas.  The only problem is there are too many people that are also writing the same thing or at least they should be.

   

I agree with you.  Here in Kentucky we only have the exchange and Anthem Blue Cross insurance as a choice.  All the other companies left the state and refused to buy into this.  Also, we have 2 hospitals and only one is included for hospital visits.  My doctor, not on the list.  Lots of doctors are retiring (my included) and are refusing to buy into this.  Vanderbilt is only the beginning. 

Klaas, I wish it would do some good to go to the governor buy he implemented this deal without us even really knowing what was going on.  No imput at all from the people of this state.  Kinda like the congress and president, steam roll them and they won't know what hit them !!!!!

It is a sad time for America.

[crazybabyborg]

Thanks for the kind words, all! Love you too, Bearly!   

[Green Eyes]

Thanks for the kind words, all! Love you too, Bearly!   

 

[Bearlyhere]

Awwwwww........... gosh, Klaas, she's just adorable! That pic belongs on a Hallmark Card!

      
    
Removed picture as the implication could be taken wrong..sorry Bearly (klaasend)

Just saw this cute picture, that's all.

      

Aw, shoot, Klaas, I don't remember what it was.  I just got out of back surgery and I was still under the influence.  It wasn't a picture of my heinie was it?  I was wonderin' where that dang picture went.  I told those doctors they shouldn't put it on facebook.  (I think we will have to change the name from facebook to something else.)  I told them the monkeys would know it was me.  

      

If you say it was not appropriate, it wasn't, I am very sorry.  

  

Was it banana man?

  

You twisted my arm.  You know I can't lie.  It was all CBB's fault, she made me do it.

  

Can you whisper it in my ear?  

  

I can't find that darn picture anywhere.  If you see it, you will let me know, right?  

  

I was a wrecking ball long before Miley was.  I think she stole my idea!  I should have copyrighted it.    

        

  
Oops, there it is.  My best dimple!  It looks just like Miley's song, right?  I think I am going to go after her for copyright infringement!

      

When I was at the drug store waiting for a prescription that song was on, I saw this tiny little girl singing.  She knew every word!  It just came out!  I don't think it is cute when a little one acts like an adult and does adult things.  It really upsets me, I know she should be able to do what she wants and no one should ever touch her, but what kind of environment are our children exposed to when s/he knows all the moves and then goes up to an adult in school and starts shaking her stuff and tells her speech therapist to shake her booty and then proceeds to do just that in front of the rest of the class?  I know, intellectually, there should be no harm done to her just because she is acting inappropriately and most times, does not know what the big deal is.  But where is she that she is exposed to grown up moves, soft porn moves, maybe or at least moves rated R?  

The children are innocent, I wish we could keep them that way until they can choose to do what they want with their bodies and are cognitively aware of what they are doing and saying.  It can also be a sign that the little one is being sexually abused.  How do we know what is going on when we knowingly promote the sexualization and exploitation of little girls and think it is cute?  It may seem cute for a very short time until we realize what is really going on and what the implications might be.  The responsibilities that go along with being an adult last so very long, I think we should let our little girls have the time to be little girls and present them with as many opportunities we can to do just that.  That goes for little boys, also.  I do not mean they need to fulfill stereotypical roles.  I mean, let our children be children, the time is so fleeting, they deserve a time of innocence, even though we also need to instill safety in them.  It is unfortunate that we can't let them be oblivious to the monsters that walk among us, but we can't.  MOO

    

Which brings me back to Klaas, I truly am sorry for what was posted, I know, you know I would never aim to hurt anyone.  I really don't know what it was, but it doesn't matter.  The idea it could possibly hurt anyone is truly upsetting.

 

[Green Eyes]

Hi Monkeys Sad news tonight.  I lost my sweet nephew tonight.   ::MonkeyTears::He had Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy.  I will miss him. He was with us much longer than any of the doctors thought. Still knowing he would be leaving us before he should. It's so had to think he has passed. I know he is in a better place. It still hurts. My heart breaks for my brother.  Rest in Peace David. Love you Auntie

[MuffyBee]

I'm so sorry Green Eyes.     May your nephew David rest in peace.        

[Blue Moon]

Hi Monkeys Sad news tonight.  I lost my sweet nephew tonight.   ::MonkeyTears::He had Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy.  I will miss him. He was with us much longer than any of the doctors thought. Still knowing he would be leaving us before he should. It's so had to think he has passed. I know he is in a better place. It still hurts. My heart breaks for my brother.  Rest in Peace David. Love you Auntie

I am so sorry Green Eyes.  I wish our children could be exempt from these diseases that take them too early.  I am sure your brother and all the family have fond memories of him.

 

[crazybabyborg]

Hi Monkeys Sad news tonight.  I lost my sweet nephew tonight.   ::MonkeyTears::He had Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy.  I will miss him. He was with us much longer than any of the doctors thought. Still knowing he would be leaving us before he should. It's so had to think he has passed. I know he is in a better place. It still hurts. My heart breaks for my brother.  Rest in Peace David. Love you Auntie

I'm so sorry, GE! Loosing someone you love is the hardest thing this earth can throw at you. You and your family are in my prayers!  HUGS!

[Green Eyes]

I'm so sorry Green Eyes.     May your nephew David rest in peace.        

Thank You Muffy    

[Green Eyes]

Hi Monkeys Sad news tonight.  I lost my sweet nephew tonight.   ::MonkeyTears::He had Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy.  I will miss him. He was with us much longer than any of the doctors thought. Still knowing he would be leaving us before he should. It's so had to think he has passed. I know he is in a better place. It still hurts. My heart breaks for my brother.  Rest in Peace David. Love you Auntie

I am so sorry Green Eyes.  I wish our children could be exempt from these diseases that take them too early.  I am sure your brother and all the family have fond memories of him.

 

Thank You Blue Moon. Oh yes there are lots of fond memories with David. I cherish each and everyone of them. 

[Green Eyes]

Hi Monkeys Sad news tonight.  I lost my sweet nephew tonight.   ::MonkeyTears::He had Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy.  I will miss him. He was with us much longer than any of the doctors thought. Still knowing he would be leaving us before he should. It's so had to think he has passed. I know he is in a better place. It still hurts. My heart breaks for my brother.  Rest in Peace David. Love you Auntie

I'm so sorry, GE! Loosing someone you love is the hardest thing this earth can throw at you. You and your family are in my prayers!  HUGS!

Thank You CBB I appreciate the prayers and hugs. They mean a lot. 

[Bearlyhere]

Hi Monkeys Sad news tonight.  I lost my sweet nephew tonight.   ::MonkeyTears::He had Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy.  I will miss him. He was with us much longer than any of the doctors thought. Still knowing he would be leaving us before he should. It's so had to think he has passed. I know he is in a better place. It still hurts. My heart breaks for my brother.  Rest in Peace David. Love you Auntie

I am so very sorry, Green Eyes.  He and all who love him are in my prayers.  How old was he?  My heart breaks for all who have suffered and are suffering from MD.  We need a cure now!

     

[Green Eyes]

Hi Monkeys Sad news tonight.  I lost my sweet nephew tonight.   ::MonkeyTears::He had Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy.  I will miss him. He was with us much longer than any of the doctors thought. Still knowing he would be leaving us before he should. It's so had to think he has passed. I know he is in a better place. It still hurts. My heart breaks for my brother.  Rest in Peace David. Love you Auntie

I am so very sorry, Green Eyes.  He and all who love him are in my prayers.  How old was he?  My heart breaks for all who have suffered and are suffering from MD.  We need a cure now!

     

Thank You Bearly   He was 37 Bearly he lived a lot longer than they ever thought. Yes we all knew any day he would leave us. He is in a much better place.Yes  they need a cure. They know what causes it and what they need to do to fix the gene that causes it. They just haven't figured out how to get into their bodies. He was a very special young man. I am so thankful we had him with us for as long as we did. 

[seahorse]

Happy Sweetest Day!

 

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