Monkey Musings Daily Open Discussion #13 12/16/08 -02/02/09

[numbersgirl]

Well, this is just a sad time for so many of us.  My EvilX decided he was tired of paying my support payments so went back to court and lied through his teeth about his income and got my payments reduced to am amount so small no one could possibly live on it.

He even bragged about his "million dollar home with a million dollar view" and the judge said he did NOT believe that was his only income but that I failed to prove he had other income.  He just retired and says he is living only on social security.  HA!  He sold his medical practice for a huge sum but put it all in his house.

Anyway, neither I nor my lawyer have a clue as to how to prove he has more income, etc.  Could be hidden anywhere under any name, etc.  I am not old enough to get social security and was stay at home mom and have nothing in work history nor marketable skills.  Also have rheumatoid arthritis and lupus.  Not physically able to work at at real job was why I did the pups because I could do that at home.

Well, I won't be able to keep my home now so can't do pups any more.  I don't want to be a burden to my children.  I do have a little money in IRA that I will use until I can think what to do.  I do not want to sell my little mini farm and have worked so hard to keep it but I can't now.

Not sure what I will do and will wait until after Christmas to try to decide.

So my heart is very heavy this Christmas as are the hearts of so many others.  May we all find comfort in the joy and love of the season.

Hi Anna...so sorry to hear of your troubles.  I don't know if this is any help...but here goes.
Can you get a court order to obtain his latest tax return?  Also, if he borrowed money for this house, his loan application would show his income, investments, etc.  Aside from that, I hope he develops a nasty termite problem both in his foundation and his briefs.

[Anna]

2NJSons,

Thanks for your kind words.  Yes, that is exactly the same thing that happened to me.  EvilX is in cahoots with the man who bought his practice and who will pay him under the table.  No way I can prove that.

I just turned 60 so maybe there won't be penalties for taking IRA early.  Taxes, yes.  Need to do it after the first of the year to put on next year's taxes and before Obama can raise capital gains taxes as he says he will.  I hope to hold on to my home long enough to sell it and not be forced into foreclosure. 

There is a microscopic condo that belongs to my oldest son in Virginia and he says I can come live there but I am not sure I could take the crowds after being so rural for the last few years. 

I am happy here and feel I am too old to change totally but will be forced to do so and will break my heart to give up all my dogs except maybe one small Yorkie.

How these men can hurt not only the mother of their children but the children as well just is beyond me.  But some of them sure can do it.

[numbersgirl]

Misitx5,Thank you so much for your kind words.I think the holidays just amplify all the hurt and things left unsaid or undone when a loved one passes.Some peole feel so uncomfortable talking about lost family members.You know we lost a baby GrandSon last October(from abuse and neglect) and my Hubby never mentions his name...won't discuss the ex DIL or anything that happened.  I know it is painful but it just creates so much tension.Feel like you're walking on eggshells.
 I don't know why these things happen,but they do.I wouldn't wish this grief on anyone.
I am very fortunate to have a good relationship with my Son's wife.Some people don't get that.
I will be thinking of you during the Holidays,and wish you a good New Year. Thanks for listening.

Trimm...I would like to share something with you that a friend of mine does.  Her husband died very young.  Her son was just an infant at the time.  She was desparate to find a way for her son to feel connected to his dad so what she does is this.  She gets a few helium filled balloons and she and her son go to the cemetary and say a prayer and then release the balloons up to heaven.  They do this on birthdays, Christmas, Easter and even Halloween.  She says it's as helpful to her as it is to her son.  Bless you.

[flossy]

I am so sorry to read of so many Monkey losses, my heart hurts for all of you!

Please accept a big hug from a cow who carries a purse!!

[trimmonthelake]

 Thanks,NumbersGirl. 
 Flossy,You just made me laugh out loud. 

[Puzzler]

I promised to post some puppy pictures so here they are!



















And Merry Christmas from the Yorkie Santas!

Anna...thank you for posting the puppy pictures.  I was hoping you would.  They are all so cute!

[Puzzler]

A boy and his dad go out for a walk on a cold, cold mornng!

Precious!

[mytime]

Hi Bearly - just wanted to say sorry for all the o/t tonight!   I wasn't overlooking you!  I just know some get upset with it and I just assumed Klaas got most of the complaints!!

[Bearlyhere]

Hi MT, did you see this

http://scaredmonkeys.net/index.php?topic=4286.msg598269#msg598269

or do you want to stay here?

[mytime]

Hi MT, did you see this

http://scaredmonkeys.net/index.php?topic=4286.msg598269#msg598269

or do you want to stay here?

No - lets meet there!!

[Bearlyhere]

Hi Bearly - just wanted to say sorry for all the o/t tonight!   I wasn't overlooking you!  I just know some get upset with it and I just assumed Klaas got most of the complaints!!

This seems to be a very upsetting year for a lot of people.  More than I have ever known it to be before.

Missing your Mom is one of the toughest things I can think of.

What good things did she do with you over the holidays?

[Bearlyhere]

Hi MT, did you see this

http://scaredmonkeys.net/index.php?topic=4286.msg598269#msg598269

or do you want to stay here?

No - lets meet there!!

Floating over...

[Bearlyhere]

A boy and his dad go out for a walk on a cold, cold mornng!

Anna, the puppies are adorable.  Are Yorkies yappers?

[Bearlyhere]

Well, this is just a sad time for so many of us.  My EvilX decided he was tired of paying my support payments so went back to court and lied through his teeth about his income and got my payments reduced to am amount so small no one could possibly live on it.

He even bragged about his "million dollar home with a million dollar view" and the judge said he did NOT believe that was his only income but that I failed to prove he had other income.  He just retired and says he is living only on social security.  HA!  He sold his medical practice for a huge sum but put it all in his house.

Anyway, neither I nor my lawyer have a clue as to how to prove he has more income, etc.  Could be hidden anywhere under any name, etc.  I am not old enough to get social security and was stay at home mom and have nothing in work history nor marketable skills.  Also have rheumatoid arthritis and lupus.  Not physically able to work at at real job was why I did the pups because I could do that at home.

Well, I won't be able to keep my home now so can't do pups any more.  I don't want to be a burden to my children.  I do have a little money in IRA that I will use until I can think what to do.  I do not want to sell my little mini farm and have worked so hard to keep it but I can't now.

Not sure what I will do and will wait until after Christmas to try to decide.

So my heart is very heavy this Christmas as are the hearts of so many others.  May we all find comfort in the joy and love of the season.

Anna, I am so, so sorry.  Can you get Social Security Disability?  Can you take on a border?  Many people are going through hard times and need a place to live after they sell their places.

I have missed your red and black dresses from when we used to talk late at night in the Holloway case, trying to figure out the police documents.

[Bearlyhere]

Well, this is just a sad time for so many of us.  My EvilX decided he was tired of paying my support payments so went back to court and lied through his teeth about his income and got my payments reduced to am amount so small no one could possibly live on it.

He even bragged about his "million dollar home with a million dollar view" and the judge said he did NOT believe that was his only income but that I failed to prove he had other income.  He just retired and says he is living only on social security.  HA!  He sold his medical practice for a huge sum but put it all in his house.

Anyway, neither I nor my lawyer have a clue as to how to prove he has more income, etc.  Could be hidden anywhere under any name, etc.  I am not old enough to get social security and was stay at home mom and have nothing in work history nor marketable skills.  Also have rheumatoid arthritis and lupus.  Not physically able to work at at real job was why I did the pups because I could do that at home.

Well, I won't be able to keep my home now so can't do pups any more.  I don't want to be a burden to my children.  I do have a little money in IRA that I will use until I can think what to do.  I do not want to sell my little mini farm and have worked so hard to keep it but I can't now.

Not sure what I will do and will wait until after Christmas to try to decide.

So my heart is very heavy this Christmas as are the hearts of so many others.  May we all find comfort in the joy and love of the season.

Hi Anna...so sorry to hear of your troubles.  I don't know if this is any help...but here goes.
Can you get a court order to obtain his latest tax return?  Also, if he borrowed money for this house, his loan application would show his income, investments, etc.  Aside from that, I hope he develops a nasty termite problem both in his foundation and his briefs.

 

Sounds like he is Woody WoodPecker!!!   

[nicnic]

nicnic we'd love to see pictures of the Dickens Village set.  Monkens cake pictures are on page 1.

Monken the cakes are wonderful!

I'll upload them to my photobucket!

[nicnic]

I hope these aren't too big.

[Bearlyhere]

Nic, the pictures look great.  They are not too big.

Monken, the cakes look wonderful!  Cute cakes from a cute Monkey, what more can you ask for?

[trimmonthelake]

Nic,Those are really nice photos. 

[crazybabyborg]

MERRY CHRISTMAS MONKEYS!!!!

I'm so excited!!! My son bought me a digital camera that I can actually work last night!!!! I took a couple of shots of my Christmas Tree and was actually able to download them to my computer!!!! 

I've only wanted to be able to do that for over a year! The pics were huge, so I'll have to figure that out, but I resized them so I hope this works! 





OK, so one's a little off center, but hey, if I can get the mechanics of it down, I'll figure the rest out!

Monken, nicnic, and Anna, I love seeing pictures from the monkeys here! The puppies, cakes, and village are awesome!


I just want to say that amidst all the intensity of feelings around Christmas, whether it be joy, loss, or love, or pain, I'm so very grateful to the wonderful people at Scared Monkeys this Christmas! I love you all, and when I count my Blessings, you all are among them!!