MONKEY MUSINGS DAILY OPEN DISCUSSION #43 6/30/09 - 7/07/09

[klaasend]

Sunny, call her back, tell her the entertainment you have planned is not conducive to children, if she is rude and trys to ask you what that means, tell her it is a surprise. 

Thanks for the suggestion A1....LOL...but, then what do I do to back that up!!  I think I just have to be honest....and try not to be too harsh with the honesty. I like kids and we have friends over who have kids...and if other children were coming I probably wouldn't think too much about it.  I think it just rubbed me wrong that she left a message and didn't talk  to me directly. Did ask if it was OK to bring the kids (there have been several times she has not brought them....like when we play cards etc) or if there would be other children and then the onion thing REALLY got my dander up.

Sunny - I agree.  Be honest with her in the kindest way possible.  My first reaction (not kind) would be to tell her there will be onion in everything and if the 7yr old doesn't like it she can starve.  Also that you aren't buying special food for anyone.

Seriously

1.  She should have asked you if it was OK
2.  Instead of telling you what food to have available for the little "princess" she should have just brought something herself
3.  If she is now the guardian of the "princess" then it's about time she acts like a parent and not a grandparent.

[trimmonthelake]

Hi all! I pick KuBear up at 4:30. The vet said it can take up to 10 days to get the pathology report back from the biopsy. That's all I know for now. Thanks for the well wishes for KuBear.

MT? I hope Tyler is feeling better today!

Thanks for the update CBB.I bet KuBear will be happy to see you. 

[trimmonthelake]

I hope Klaas is feeling better today too! 

Thanks CBB - I am feeling better at the moment.  Went to bed really early last night.  I'm on my way to the dentist this morning 

Glad you're feeling better.   

[Monken]

Klaas, you & I would get along really well, I think!! 

Sunny, I have a nephew that is exactly the same as this child, (His mother is a sociopath) He also has an 8 yr. old sister who is almost as bad. There has recently been a HUGE family argument that started with these two & now I am no longer speaking to my brother or my mother! Needless to say, I won't be watching either of them ever again! I would tell your friend that this is an adult party so if they cannot find a babysitter maybe they can make the next party. It is not fair to your other guests to cater to this woman & it wouldn't bother me one bit to tell her that! This is your holiday too & it should not be ruined trying to keep your eyes on her brat! Too bad, so sad, ya know!   

[trimmonthelake]

Sunny, call her back, tell her the entertainment you have planned is not conducive to children, if she is rude and trys to ask you what that means, tell her it is a surprise. 

Thanks for the suggestion A1....LOL...but, then what do I do to back that up!!  I think I just have to be honest....and try not to be too harsh with the honesty. I like kids and we have friends over who have kids...and if other children were coming I probably wouldn't think too much about it.  I think it just rubbed me wrong that she left a message and didn't talk  to me directly. Did ask if it was OK to bring the kids (there have been several times she has not brought them....like when we play cards etc) or if there would be other children and then the onion thing REALLY got my dander up.

Sunny - I agree.  Be honest with her in the kindest way possible.  My first reaction (not kind) would be to tell her there will be onion in everything and if the 7yr old doesn't like it she can starve.  Also that you aren't buying special food for anyone.

Seriously

1.  She should have asked you if it was OK
2.  Instead of telling you what food to have available for the little "princess" she should have just brought something herself
3.  If she is now the guardian of the "princess" then it's about time she acts like a parent and not a grandparent.

I agree Klaas.This person wasn't being very considerate at all.

I'm LMAO about the starving part. 
Sunny might need to have a drink or 2 before her company arrives. 

[trimmonthelake]

     Say what you really think, SunnyinTX!!!!

Hello, all.

If she could ever get over her shyness.   

[trimmonthelake]

Monken,we've all been there,huh?
Holidays........don't you wish we had one every week?    He!! no.   

[2NJSons_Mom]

     Say what you really think, SunnyinTX!!!!

Hello, all.

If she could ever get over her shyness.   

She's true to herself, trim.

Klaas, I agree, totally with you with regard to your post to SunnyinTX.  Shame on her for putting Sunny in this position.

[trimmonthelake]

     Say what you really think, SunnyinTX!!!!

Hello, all.

If she could ever get over her shyness.   

She's true to herself, trim.

Klaas, I agree, totally with you with regard to your post to SunnyinTX.  Shame on her for putting Sunny in this position.

Oh,I didn't mean that in a bad way.
That's what I like about Sunny.I love to read her post.   

[SunnyinTX]

Sunny, call her back, tell her the entertainment you have planned is not conducive to children, if she is rude and trys to ask you what that means, tell her it is a surprise. 

Thanks for the suggestion A1....LOL...but, then what do I do to back that up!!  I think I just have to be honest....and try not to be too harsh with the honesty. I like kids and we have friends over who have kids...and if other children were coming I probably wouldn't think too much about it.  I think it just rubbed me wrong that she left a message and didn't talk  to me directly. Did ask if it was OK to bring the kids (there have been several times she has not brought them....like when we play cards etc) or if there would be other children and then the onion thing REALLY got my dander up.

Sunny - I agree.  Be honest with her in the kindest way possible.  My first reaction (not kind) would be to tell her there will be onion in everything and if the 7yr old doesn't like it she can starve.  Also that you aren't buying special food for anyone.

Seriously

1.  She should have asked you if it was OK
2.  Instead of telling you what food to have available for the little "princess" she should have just brought something herself
3.  If she is now the guardian of the "princess" then it's about time she acts like a parent and not a grandparent.

thanks Klaas...that's exactly what I did. I called her and said, 'I got your voice message yesterday and I am really embarrassed that I did say this was an adults only party.'   I did tell her there would be no other children here and lots of fireworks and drinking. I also told her that other people were bringing side dishes and I really couldn't tell them what to put in their food. I told her I really hoped they could get a sitter and join us. But I really didn't think bringing the children was a good idea. She was gracious and said she would get a sitter and asked me what she could bring...whew!!  LOL...I am so glad your gut reactions are like mine!  LOL   The little bugger would not starve...she is more than chunky. I know they are having a difficult time with her and a lot of the problems are going  psychological issues. She has an appointment with a child psychologist next week.  But I really didn't want the child around.  I do agree they are now going to have to start acting like RESPONSIBLE parents. Can you imagine starting over with kids!  OH MERCY!!!

[Fanny Mae]

Hi all! I pick KuBear up at 4:30. The vet said it can take up to 10 days to get the pathology report back from the biopsy. That's all I know for now. Thanks for the well wishes for KuBear.

MT? I hope Tyler is feeling better today!

CBB, I came over here to see about you and KuBear. I hope everything is ok.   

[SunnyinTX]

Hi all! I pick KuBear up at 4:30. The vet said it can take up to 10 days to get the pathology report back from the biopsy. That's all I know for now. Thanks for the well wishes for KuBear.

MT? I hope Tyler is feeling better today!

Thanks for the update CBB.I bet KuBear will be happy to see you. 

CBB.....the waiting is terrible, I know.  I hope for the very best outcome.

[SunnyinTX]

Klaas, you & I would get along really well, I think!! 

Sunny, I have a nephew that is exactly the same as this child, (His mother is a sociopath) He also has an 8 yr. old sister who is almost as bad. There has recently been a HUGE family argument that started with these two & now I am no longer speaking to my brother or my mother! Needless to say, I won't be watching either of them ever again! I would tell your friend that this is an adult party so if they cannot find a babysitter maybe they can make the next party. It is not fair to your other guests to cater to this woman & it wouldn't bother me one bit to tell her that! This is your holiday too & it should not be ruined trying to keep your eyes on her brat! Too bad, so sad, ya know!   

Hi Monken... I am so sorry your relationship is broken...I hope it is repairable and soon.  I just just what you suggested.  And it worked out well...but I was really sweating it.

[Fanny Mae]

Received text from "our" Dolce yesterday.  Everybody is doing great.  She is just busy busy times two!!! 

Thanks for the news about Dolce. I can believe she is very, very busy. 

[SunnyinTX]

Sunny, call her back, tell her the entertainment you have planned is not conducive to children, if she is rude and trys to ask you what that means, tell her it is a surprise. 

Thanks for the suggestion A1....LOL...but, then what do I do to back that up!!  I think I just have to be honest....and try not to be too harsh with the honesty. I like kids and we have friends over who have kids...and if other children were coming I probably wouldn't think too much about it.  I think it just rubbed me wrong that she left a message and didn't talk  to me directly. Did ask if it was OK to bring the kids (there have been several times she has not brought them....like when we play cards etc) or if there would be other children and then the onion thing REALLY got my dander up.

Sunny - I agree.  Be honest with her in the kindest way possible.  My first reaction (not kind) would be to tell her there will be onion in everything and if the 7yr old doesn't like it she can starve.  Also that you aren't buying special food for anyone.

Seriously

1.  She should have asked you if it was OK
2.  Instead of telling you what food to have available for the little "princess" she should have just brought something herself
3.  If she is now the guardian of the "princess" then it's about time she acts like a parent and not a grandparent.

I agree Klaas.This person wasn't being very considerate at all.

I'm LMAO about the starving part. 
Sunny might need to have a drink or 2 before her company arrives. 

A few margaritas never hurt anyone!  LOL

[SunnyinTX]

     Say what you really think, SunnyinTX!!!!

Hello, all.

LOL...well you know I am a shy wallflower...just ask our BEE!

[SunnyinTX]

     Say what you really think, SunnyinTX!!!!

Hello, all.

If she could ever get over her shyness.   

Now I was nice....I didn't say the chits...I did say diarrhea

[SunnyinTX]

Monken,we've all been there,huh?
Holidays........don't you wish we had one every week?    He!! no.   

I'd take the holidays before funerals...at least you can cancel holiday festivities!!

[trimmonthelake]

Monken,we've all been there,huh?
Holidays........don't you wish we had one every week?    He!! no.   

I'd take the holidays before funerals...at least you can cancel holiday festivities!!

You've got a point there.   

[SunnyinTX]

     Say what you really think, SunnyinTX!!!!

Hello, all.

If she could ever get over her shyness.   

She's true to herself, trim.

Klaas, I agree, totally with you with regard to your post to SunnyinTX.  Shame on her for putting Sunny in this position.

I want to think she just wasn't thinking.  It is not unusual for people to call at the last moment and ask if they can bring someone along. I always have more than enuf. And  my SIL doesn't like raw onions so when she is coming I usually take some of whatever I am making... say potato salad....and put it separately before adding onions. I think my friend knows this and probably (I hope) that's what she meant...but the brat is NOT my sister in law!!  But it's all good now....(I hope)