Happy Birthday to the love of my life.

[nonesuche]

thanks pdh3, I appreciate it and I will survive, I always do  

I guess for those of us who have had loves of our lives, to see carnut use that tactic to highlight a most dishonorable woman........well just way more than I can swallow whole this week?

today is my dad's birthday, i'm trying to remember all the good things, like dancing with him when I was 6 in a huge ballroom, or him taking me to Radio City Hall when I was 7 - I clung to his big hand like it was my life preserver  

thanks for caring and for your prayers  - hugs back to you !

[crazybabyborg]

Aw, none, you bring back wonderful, warm memories for me too! Did you stand on his shoes on tiptoes when you danced? I did with my Dad. Daddy's are the first men we love, and we never quite get over it, even after they're gone, but in so many ways they taught us how to love.

I take the day off on Daddy's birthday, and I make a point to buy something: Seriously! Depending on finances, it may just be a new pair of cheap earrings, but somehow I allow myself to know he would want me to be good to myself. Your Dad would want the same thing for his little girl.

This whole death thing is perverse, None. It's the hardest thing life has, and you've been overwhelmed facing it. Be good to you, hon, whenever you possibly can. {{{HUGS and PRAYERS}}}

[Angiex911dsptchr]

thanks pdh3, I appreciate it and I will survive, I always do  

I guess for those of us who have had loves of our lives, to see carnut use that tactic to highlight a most dishonorable woman........well just way more than I can swallow whole this week?

today is my dad's birthday, i'm trying to remember all the good things, like dancing with him when I was 6 in a huge ballroom, or him taking me to Radio City Hall when I was 7 - I clung to his big hand like it was my life preserver  

thanks for caring and for your prayers  - hugs back to you !

   Sorry Sistah.  
I can bet your dad is very proud of his girl . You are an amazing woman,
Keepin you in my prayers sweety. I hope you get to feelin better soon.

[LouiseVargas]

For those of you who miss their fathers, me included, here is a song that has touched my heart beyond compare. It was sung  by Luther Vandross.
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"Dance With My Father"

Back when I was a child, before life removed all the innocence
My father would lift me high and dance with my mother and me and then
Spin me around ‘til I fell asleep
Then up the stairs he would carry me
And I knew for sure I was loved
If I could get another chance, another walk, another dance with him
I’d play a song that would never, ever end
How I’d love, love, love
To dance with my father again
When I and my mother would disagree
To get my way, I would run from her to him
He’d make me laugh just to comfort me
Then finally make me do just what my mama said
Later that night when I was asleep
He left a dollar under my sheet
Never dreamed that he would be gone from me
If I could steal one final glance, one final step, one final dance with him
I’d play a song that would never, ever end
‘Cause I’d love, love, love
To dance with my father again
Sometimes I’d listen outside her door
And I’d hear how my mother cried for him
I pray for her even more than me
I pray for her even more than me
I know I’m praying for much too much
But could you send back the only man she loved
I know you don’t do it usually
But dear Lord she’s dying
To dance with my father again
Every night I fall asleep and this is all I ever dream

[Tibrogargan]

Louise - that is beautiful.  

None - My darling Dad passed away 1985 and I still miss him just as much.  I have my DH with me and healthy thank God after his two major brain surgeries two years ago.  Hugs and prayers for you.

As CBB said our fathers are the first men we love and don't we spend the rest of our lives measuring any prospective husbands against their high standard?  My Dad was born in England and came here with his family when he was about 10 years old.  Remained an English gentleman till the day he died.  A wonderful man and would not do or say anything to hurt anyone.  I wish I could be more like him.

[Tibrogargan]

Carnut's story reminds me of this :

A man spent many many years searching for the perfect woman and then when he found her, she was searching for the perfect man.

[Carnut]

Carnut's story reminds me of this :

A man spent many many years searching for the perfect woman and then when he found her, she was searching for the perfect man.

Yes, I've known that little line almost all my life and have spoken it frequently. It's a heck of a deal.

[jobie]

Yes, what we want in a mate changes over the years...

My requirements now are intelligence, emotional and financial stability, a social conscience and one or two physical attributes.

I have a friend who will settle for a man who can sit up by himself and not drool.  As time goes by our requirements do as well.